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There is no doubt the obesity epidemic in the U.S. tilts the dating playing field in favor of those women who manage to keep their figures. The growing bloat of half the female population guarantees that slender women are more in demand than ever, and I believe this is a major contributing factor to the runaway egos and entitlement complexes of American women in general.
To see how this might be so, three premises need to be examined.
1. Does obesity handicap the dating prospects of afflicted women more than it does afflicted men?
Since American men are getting fatter at about the same rate as American women it’s reasonable to ask if this neck and neck race to the fattest helps keep the dating market balanced and the prospects for finding love equal between the sexes. The answer is no. Men are much more visually driven than women when judging the opposite sex for mate worthiness and rolls of fertility-concealing blubber that disfigure a woman’s natural hourglass shape and sexually arousing appearance will harm her attractiveness to men a lot worse than being overweight will harm a man’s attractiveness to women.
This is a simple fact of life. A rich or smart or funny guy who is 30 pounds overweight will have an easier time in the dating market than a kind and sweet and personable woman overweight by the same amount. Guys have many more compensatory qualities they can bring to the table to neutralize the disadvantage of being fat, whereas fat women, no matter how well cultivated their other attributes, cannot win over the men they want without lowering their standards to the basement or accepting a life of constant pump and dumps from players on the prowl for easy noncommital sex.
Furthermore, it is a myth that fat guys, through the power of their expanding guts, magically discover the appeal of fat chicks. The fat guys you see hooking up with fat chicks do so BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE. The truth is that fat guys lust after hot slender babes just as much as thin guys do.
2. Does the obesity epidemic directly improve the dating prospects of women who stay in shape?
Given that fat girls have poor dating prospects even among fat guys, and that almost all guys are attracted to thin girls (the tiny population of fatty fucking fetishists to the contrary notwithstanding), the remaining thin girls will see their sexual market value skyrocket. This smaller pool of attractive women means that each hot chick can date up higher than she would have otherwise.
A thin girl whose looks are magnified in contrast to the fat chicks around her and who is pursued by all the men will command a much higher price — and a bigger sense of self-worth — than a thin girl in a roomful of other thin girls who is pursued by a fraction of the available men who must divide their attention between multiple targets.
In the former scenario, it will not take the thin girl long to perceive her inflated market value and act accordingly. A monstrous bitch shield ensues.
This is why the hot girl with a fat friend will subconsciously ENABLE HER FAT FRIEND’S WEIGHT PROBLEM, and why the fat girl will try to drag her hot friend into the bottom of the Ben and Jerry’s pint with her. It is against the genetic interests of both of them to encourage female competition. They are in it to win it, just like the rest of us.
3. Do the numbers justify a connection between obesity and typical American woman attitudes?
Let’s check the numbers. First, I’ll show through the illuminating power of my handy charts the ideal attractive weight for women. (I’ve used the 1959 Met Life insurance tables for this analysis as they more accurately reflect optimum weights than recent tables which have had to adjust upwards to account for American “grade inflation”.)
Ideal Weight: BMI 17.6 – 21. 99% of men find women in this range to be hot.
Maximum Healthy Weight: BMI 25. The upper limit of what the medical establishment classifies as healthy weight. (Note that “healthy” and “aesthetically pleasing to men” are not necessarily the same.) 30% of men will find women over the ideal weight but within the healthy weight sexually attractive. The other 70% will think they are chubby, but still bangable if the effort required to close the deal is not too great.
Overweight: BMI 25.1 – 30. The weight at which a woman becomes officially fat. Less than 10% of men will find women in this range sexually attractive. Men who can get slender girls will not even look twice at women in this group.
Obesity… and Beyond!: BMI 30+. Over 98% of men will be actively repulsed by these women.
Height Ideal Weight Max Healthy Overweight Fatass!
5’0″ 90-107 128 129-154 155+
5’1″ 93-111 132 133-159 160+
5’2″ 96-115 137 138-164 165+
5’3″ 100-119 141 142-169 170+
5’4″ 103-123 146 147-175 176+
5’5″ 106-127 151 152-180 181+
5’6″ 109-131 155 156-186 187+
5’7″ 112-135 160 161-192 193+
5’8″ 115-139 164 165-197 198+
5’9″ 119-143 169 170-203 204+
5’10” 123-147 174 175-209 210+
5’11” 126-151 179 180-215 216+
6’0″ 130-155 184 185-221 222+
6’1″ 133-159 190 191-227 228+
6’2″ 137-163 195 196-234 235+
Now let’s look at the demographics. According to the 2000 U.S. Census, there are approximately 40 million American women between the ages of 20 and 39 (a range which roughly matches a woman’s fertile years and maximum dating marketability). Using my handy chart above, we establish a threshold of BMI 25 as the point at which a woman takes a non-trivial hit to her sexual worth. As her BMI steadily increases, more and more men will regard her with cold asexual indifference culminating in outright revulsion. An American Medical Association study classified 52% of all women between the ages of 20 and 39 as overweight or obese with a BMI of 25 or higher. (The CDC also has similar studies on obesity.)
That’s HALF of all women in the prime dating years who have damaged or even completely trashed their sexual appeal to men through sloth and gluttony. They have made their search for love unnecessarily harder by their choices.
There are 20 million American women at a healthy weight competing for the attentions of 40 million men in the same age bracket. Even this lopsided number doesn’t tell the whole story. Of those 20 million women, a smaller number are at the ideal sexual attractiveness weight of BMI 17.6 to 21, given that the upper bound of healthy weight is BMI 25. The ideal attractive BMI is about half the total healthy BMI, so the number of slender babes that are maximally attractive to the vast majority of men is really in the neighborhood of 10 million. Remember that this analysis does not factor in facial ugliness which would surely whittle away at the number of attractive women further.
Finally, we must stipulate that the tendency of women as they age to date increasingly older men than themselves means that the figure of 40 million men is actually too low. Extending the dating market of men to age 50 adds another 20 million to their total number. Controlling for marriage makes no difference because the ratio of single men to single women remains the same.
This brings us to the final tally of potentially 60 million men hotly pursuing 10 million women. That’s a 6 to 1 dating ratio. Talk about a stacked deck.
If you want to know why American women have such unrealistic expectations, ridiculously out-of-sync standards, neurotically overblown egos, schizophrenic flakiness, and chronic selfishness –
it’s all in the numbers.
the fat, porky, tubby numbers.