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I received a thankful acknowledgment from emailer #1, “D”.
I enjoyed the feedback, I’m glad to have received it, thanks. I had only stumbled upon your blog after all of that happened, so, no, I did not have an enlightened perspective when approaching that situation. Now I do 😉
Sounds like it was an authentic advice seeker. Sir, your incredible betaness is forgiven. But henceforth you cannot plead ignorance. PS ditch the smilie.
My goal is to learn from this..so what would have been appropriate counter tactics to her:
1. killer shit test…I actually did not reply “LOL” (that was my comment when I wrote it up to send into your blog). My original reply to her was, “I did not mean anything negative with my text message and if you want to break it off that is your right (I’m fine with it).”
What would have been an appropriate reply to “pass” the shit test?
Ok, good thing the “LOL” isn’t what you sent. Unfortunately, the text you did send is even worse. Too wordy, too apologetic, too passive aggressive. An appropriate response to her “Good luck” text would have been: Radio silence for a day, then a text message saying “You too.” Your goal at that point was to get under her skin and make her wonder what you’re thinking.
2. Regarding these: (your comments)
I bet this is what her gina was thinking: “What kind of beta kisses me for hours without closing the deal?”
This one she apparently got over because the day after she emailed me reiterating to me how she enjoyed her time with me and said we’d have to do it again soon….so it left only one issue ….the following:
I bet this is what she was thinking: “Is this guy toying with me?”
So how could I have defused her anti-slut defense barrier? Should I playfully have said that she can’t take a joke?
Since you already activated her ASD, you needed to deactivate it. One way to do that is to cancel a scheduled date. Another way, in your specific case, is to cut off all texting. Don’t tell a girl she can’t take a joke, no matter how playfully. Saying that is walking back from your supposed offense, and therefore giving her power. An alpha does not walk back; he owns his offensiveness. Reversing an activated ASD is tough, and not something for the faint of balls.
By the way, everyone should check out the comments to yesterday’s post for the… stimulating… banter between me and the whore entity known as Feministx. Good times.