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There are many factors that contribute to a woman believing the world should fall in her lap (for example, being an American), but none are as important as how she perceives her looks compared to other women. I’ve found that the prettier a girl is, the more she feels entitled to special treatment and unearned rewards.
I remember this conversation I had with a woman I had been sexing for a couple months. She was a solid 8 and turned many heads, and more pertinently, she knew it. I glibly brought up the subject of men paying for women on dates; she took my half-serious bait and offered her deep thoughts on the matter.
Her: I would never date a guy who didn’t pay for me on the first few dates.
Me: Is that a hard and fast rule?
Her: I’m not saying he has to spend a lot on dinners or whatever, but he does need to pay for me.
Her: Because that’s what guys do for girls they are interested in.
Me: And what do girls do for guys they are interested in?
Her: Give them sex!
Me: But guys give girls they like sex, too. Shouldn’t that be enough compensation? It’s even steven!
Her: That’s different. We can get that from anywhere.
Me: So guys have to bring twice as much to the table as girls — their sex and their money. Sounds like a fair trade-off.
Her: Every guy I’ve ever dated paid for me. Why should I expect less now?
She had a point. Why stop the gravy train? After all, I paid for her, although I take some pride in the knowledge that I most likely invested much less monetarily in her than her previous suitors to get the same piece of ass. It’s like finding an awesome pair of shoes at DSW for 70% discount when everyone else is paying full price — you feel like you got one over on the plebe consumers.
Clearly, pretty girls feel entitled to a man’s money in exchange for the pleasure of her company, where in this case “company” is defined to mean her ability to sit still on a bar stool or a dining chair for the date minimum of 15 minutes and hear the guy’s pitch.
Why do they have this sense of entitlement?
Because they can afford to. Behaviors change only when there is incentive to change or disincentive to maintaining the status quo. As far as I can tell, most guys have not abandoned the man pays paradigm, so the beat goes on and will continue to go on unless human nature changes.
Which brings us to today’s handy chart. Here I will illustrate how a woman’s sense of entitlement varies with respect to her attractiveness.
Woman’s Hotness Her Sense of Entitlement
0 Must pay for sex with any non-homeless man;
feels entitled to walk away alive from any sexual
1 Expects man not to call her a “dirty filthy whore”;
“cuntface” is OK, though. Doesn’t consider knifings
part of foreplay.
2 Expects man not to shout out another woman’s
name during sex or to forget her name less than
10 seconds after she told him it.
3 Expects man to open eyes at least once during sex;
also expects no less than 1.5 seconds of post-coital
cuddling not necessarily face-to-face.
4 Thinks man should at least pay for his own drinks;
she will make a polite but disingenuous move to pull
money out of her purse first when the bill comes.
He’ll call her bluff.
5 Thinks man should split the check with her, but she
winds up footing the bill while he covers the tip;
feels entitled to one date before getting harangued
6 Expects to be wined and dined at a 2 star establishment;
Wants a man to hold out for two dates before prodding
her vulva with inanimate objects.
7 Expects to be treated to drinks, dinner, and a non-matinee
movie; wants the man to spend twice as much on her as
she spends on him; will judge him based on which sushi
restaurant he takes her to; expects him to deal with at
least one of her flake fits; will not put out until he has
paid for a minimum of 3 dates.
8 Feels entitled to spend absolutely nothing on dates;
becomes highly offended if man even suggests splitting
bill; will regularly show up late to dates as if it is her
prerogative; 4 star establishments only – accepts no
substitutes; will not be picked up in a toyota camry or
honda accord; expects man to perform at least
three chivalrous acts; won’t put out until date six; will
flake twice and expect the man to take it.
9 Feels entitled to forget man’s name; won’t even say
‘thank you’ when man pays the bill; looks in the
mirror more than she looks at her date; expects his
watch to cost as much as her emu-skin purse; talks
about herself incessantly except when she asks the
guy about his credit limit/job title/stock portfolio;
won’t accept less than $200 being spent on her on
any date pre-sex; will walk out on date if man’s
shoes don’t comply with fashion industry standards
of the week.
10 Will not settle for less than a first date aboard his
private yacht – 50 foot+ class only; expects payment in
the form of pink diamonds before putting out; feels
entitled to do absolutely nothing in bed.
10+American The federal government was invented to placate her.
Of course, what a woman expects from a man she’s dating and what actually turns her on to want to fuck the guy are two different things. If you are an alpha male and have lived a day in your life, you know the best way to please a woman who is hard to please is… to not try hard to please her.
‘Opposite George’ comes to mind here.