shartiste wins this week’s COTW. This might be his second trophy. Hey man, save some for the betas.
high maintenance has become a beta rationalization term. most often it means “I’m not high enough SMV to maintain her”.
What’s high maintenance to you is decidedly low maintenance to Leonardo DeCaprio.
There are objectively high maintenance girls who would give any man fits, but it’s true that most of them labeled as such are only high maintenance to betaboys who don’t have what it takes to tame the whirlwind of their women. Have you ever seen a girl with a reputation for high maintenance turn into a purring, easy-going kitten under the tutelage of the right kind of man? Yes, you have.
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COTW runner-up is NuancedBrooklynArtist, in fine wowjustwowness satirical form.
Wow, just wow. I just finished reading your post and I am shaking with rage. This is not okay, and someone could have been triggered by your hostility. This post is literally, vile dudebro neckbeard microaggression. It is threatening and harassment that violates my safe space. Let me tell you a thing: You are an awful, shitty person. Let me explain why your post is problematic, it’s 2015 not the 1950s. You are on the wrong side of history. Your post lacks nuance and complexity. You don’t know this, because white privilege. You ignore the enriching diverse enrichment around you that will enrich your experience. I’m not here to educate you more. There is consensus on this issue already. This is not a place for learns. Like seriously. I literally can’t even now. Read a book on Nelson Mandela (yay Mandela!), and educate yourself. Shut up, listen, and believe. Just sayin’.
😆 This is getting to be a crowded field. If you want to parody the SJW, you had better bring your A(sshole) game.
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COTW consolation prize goes to whorefinder, for finding the reason leftoids eschew logic in favor of self-serving rationaliztion and emotionalism.
Left wing “thought” is merely a series of rationalizations to gain power, with no consistency necessary.
So this blip won’t make a dent in them, whichever way they come out. And civilization will slide further into chaos.
It’s like watching a little girl make up the rules to their games of pretend—altogether, the rules make zero sense and contradict one another, but individually, the rules exist to maximize that particular little girl’s power in her pretend world. Her tea parties are dungeons with pretty doily chains around each of her guests legs and arms.
But hey, at least we elected Obama.
whorefinder concludes with,
Rape!
Leftoids live and breathe on your prostration and apologia. Why not try something different for a change?
NuancedBrooklynArtist should make a blog in that style…just perfect.
It would be a hilarious experiment, because you know the targets of his mockery would be too dumb to figure it out…
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Godfrey Elfwick has partially beaten him to it.
https://twitter.com/GodfreyElfwick
Godfrey for president! I don’t care if he’s English!
parody rape!
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Skin color is a social construct bwahhaha a young black man lawlzz
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i commend all our Manchurian candidates.
About time they were unleashed
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had some older bitch making fun of me last night. Said something to the effect of “women would find you more attractive if you lost that asshole attitude.” Or you weren’t so cocky or something…
I gathered myself and responded, “if I had a nickel for every time I gave a fuck what women thought, well then I’d be flat broke.” The conversation devolved from there where I ended up shushing her.
In retrospect, she was trying to knock me off my pedestal because I’m objectively way out of her league. I’m open to suggestions for a less caustic retort, though the girl sitting next to me responded “no” to “was I too harsh on her?”
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He would be quoted with utmost seriousness by The Atlantic.
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It needs to be said that maybe people like Mr Hunt are siding with the cultural Marxists. Publicly speaking the truth, to be publicly flogged, to prevent more real talk. How can we be sure?
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I think it’s simply cowardice on their parts. NEVER resign from a job. FORCE them to FIRE you, and force them to go ON RECORD as having fired you. NEVER sign a non-disclosure agreement, and NEVER accept a severance package as hush money. And if the conversation went something like “You can either resign with your pension, or be fired and lose your pension,” then his response should have been, “See you in court, kiddo. See you in court.” And then throw the mother of all personal injury lawsuits at them.
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For a good time, GoogleImages(“writer living in Brooklyn, NY”)
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Leftoids live and breathe on your prostration and apologia.
True…
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“Never apologize; it’s a sign of weakness.”
—John Wayne, She Wore a Yellow Ribbon
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Mistakes were made
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TIM HUNT HAS BEEN JAMES-WATSON-ED: Nobel Prize-winning scientist says he was forced to resign (“the trouble with women in science”) http://www.windstream.net/news/read/category/International%20News/article/the_associated_press-nobel_prizewinning_scientist_says_he_was_forced_to-ap
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JAMES WATSON: “[I am] inherently gloomy about the prospect of Africa [because] all our social policies are based on the fact that their intelligence is the same as ours—whereas all the testing says not really.” He went on to say that despite the desire that all human beings should be equal, “people who have to deal with black employees find this not true.”[
TIM HUNT: “Three things happen when they are in the lab: you fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticize them they cry.” He suggested that labs should be gender-segregated.
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Madness. The triumph of unreason. Meanwhile China or Russia would do well to dangle well-paid and prestigious positions in front of our ablest people, since we value our insane ideology over their contributions.
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I had a suspicion that he was forced to resign. It’s UCL’s loss here, they can hardly afford to get rid of all their best.
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“Madness. The triumph of unreason. Meanwhile China or Russia would do well to dangle well-paid and prestigious positions in front of our ablest people, since we value our insane ideology over their contributions.”
This is a great point. How long can highly intelligent white males work in their home country where they are belittled, blamed etc (all the things we already know) just to bring home their pay to a fattie who just oozes with “I’ll divorce your bitch ass anyday I want, bitch” ?
We’re talking about the world’s most intelligent men. They’re going to figure it out. Go be a scientist in China for 300k a year at a low tax rate plus expenses paid. Have your own carousel of 20 year old Chinese girls with flawless bodies until you’re 78 years old. Why? Because you’re elite. That’s your just desserts. Not the shit life of a high level genius researcher in Peoria or Poughkeepsie or somewhere; –fat wife, walk on eggshells at work, lose your job over any disgruntled female employee claiming you pinched her fatass etc.
They’re going to head overseas. Good job “Anonymous” Good call.
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Can we be sure that people like Mr. Hunt aren’t just members of the left? Knowing he was going to be publicly flogged, he made the statements to PREVENT real talkers from even trying to speak the truth. Cultmarx treachery knows no bounds, after all.
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How do you know so much about their tactics? Why should we trust you? . . ad infinitum.
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I’m not feeling it here. Although I do wonder whether Donald “Sterling” Tokowitz might have invented that entire “racism” fiasco in order to be “forced” to sell the Los Angeles Clippers for a mere two BILLION dollars.
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whorefinder: ‘Left wing “thought” is merely a series of rationalizations to gain power, with no consistency necessary.’
Watching that psychopath, H!tlery Rotten Cl!tless, trying to build a 2016 presidential campaign upon a platform of bashing billionaires, given that she and her husband are well on their way to becoming billionaires from selling access to the US State Department, and after her husband flew around on a private jet with billionaire Eskimo Jeffrey Epstein, all the way down to sex slave island, where the Eskimo was holding underage Shiksas against their will, in order to service a coterie of psychopaths, has to be the most audacious example of psychopathy which I have ever seen out of a non-Eskimo. In the America which I once knew, H!tlery and Bubba would have long since been hanged for High Crimes and Misdemeanors.
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Lol only just seen this about girls that are “high maintenance”
It’s too fucking true
Dogs don’t fuck around the pound owner – or they get put down
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I’ve found that relentlessly teasing a chick is a DHV: SHE: “Why don’t I have an engagement ring yet?” YOU: “Jesus H Christ you’re high maintenance.” And throw in some nicknames while you’re at it. SHE:”I can’t be expected to wear these shoes to dinner tonight.” YOU: “Roger that, Princess Barbie Doll from Hell.”
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Good shit!
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I like that. You choose how to respond to things, rather than get sucked into her bitching like a lil beta. So crucial
The ‘I choose’ mentality fits into every context. Comfort is not to be neglected though – best not to tease a fragile gf asking your opinion on what to wear – but if you still choose what she wears, it’s still money cause it’s on your terms
The strong Independent bitches can stay away – Alone, slutty and barren
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hah…Ive learned humor is the best weapon I have – and I have others.
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Nice haha. “Your Majesty” and “Lady Covington” are my go too mock names when they get demanding.
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I had a high maintenance girl once; took her forever to cover up her bruises with clothes and makeup.
rape!
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[…] Comment Of The Week: The General Theory Of Maintenance Relativity […]
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Have you ever seen a girl with a reputation for high maintenance turn into a purring, easy-going kitten under the tutelage of the right kind of man? Yes, you have.
There is a magical sound that turns them back to being high maintenance shrews again. It’s called wedding bells. Try not to sound them in the vicinity of such women.
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“What’s high maintenance to you is decidedly low maintenance to Leonardo DeCaprio.”
In my permanent top 3; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66TuSJo4dZM
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[…] Comment Of The Week: The General Theory Of Maintenance Relativity […]
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to me a high maintenance woman would be an aggressively stupid one with a possible social media and/or smart phone addiction. I am sure leonardo dicaprio could control a woman like that because to her, fine art would be something like the movie titanic.
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For real – fine art and women shouldn’t appear together. Look at the puke in most watched youtube vids of all time. Guarantee 90% of views by women. Cringey schmaltzy bubblegum pop & sickly slow r’n’b mostly.
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you can find some that have broader interests but it is admittedly rare. former or current ballerinas are a good example. they still listen to that music but at least they are aware of the classical music and traditions as well. art itself isn’t the most meaningful to me and i dislike art snobs but the current interests of women, along the lines of the horrible pop music, the neon or hippy slut clothing, the trashy music fest instagram photo ops, etc are all so bad that anything that replaces it seems like a breath of fresh air.
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Great comment by shartiste and great analysis. You put into words what I had always thought. The runners-up were solid as well.
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I really don’t care if you think that my SMV isn’t high enough to maintain a broad. If she requires too much time, Next!
No, Snidely, all women don’t require the same level of maintenance. Cray-crays are a pain even to top alphas. Same with emotional basket cases.
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theasdgamer is right.
it might be true that it takes a top alpha to keep a very high maintenance girl under control but that doesn’t mean the top alphas have any interest in doing so. why would they choose a girl who is more work than she’s worth when they can get girls who are far better?
the answer is…they don’t.
when you have options, you aren’t going to waste your time trying to make omelets out of bad eggs. you’re going to ditch them and go for the best in the bunch.
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True
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Would agree 88.
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ASD gamer is an aspergers ridden recovering beta. I simultaneously wish him luck, and want him to shut the fuck up with his posts dripping with social awkwardness and overly technical jargon that he hoped we will misconstrue for actual experience
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Will, you need to get both your neurons firing before you post. Your bull5h1t wish doesn’t fool anyone. I dropped more panties before I was 19 than you ever did. And I didn’t have Heartiste to rely on. Fakk you very much.
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Lessee…I’ve been married about as long as Will has been alive…and he thinks that I lack actual experience with a woman. Go figure.
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Will, seriously, your comment has a very feminine passive-aggressive style. You need to become a man.
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lol how the fuck is that passive aggressive, that’s just straight up aggressive.
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Lol, you need to put on your reading glasses. Classic shaming & faux good will.
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Why not try something different for a change?
There is no victory in defense. To win you must attack. Rapidly, ruthlessly, viciously; attack, attack….and when in doubt…attack again.
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Something that works with high maintenance girls
Extreme push pull
She crosses a line – cut contact / the good old “next”
Then leave her to figure out why she’s been dumped – let her stew it over
..Ignore her for a bit… Cancel phone calls etc
Then be like, ok, come back – she will be grateful for the opportunity just to suck you off
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The term “high maintenance” is, as has already been said a cop out. Its a coping mechanism for beta’s and the self limiting shy. The very hottest (9&10s) are often among the most approachable because they scare of all but the boldest, and therefore get hit on a lot less than bangable women of lower market value. Perceived attainability means that 5s-8s get hit on far more than their value merits and turns them into ego inflated, arrogant shit testers. The cowering beta then mistakenly assumes that very hottest must therefore have even worse personality traits and once again self deselects.
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Scare off
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As relevant as a bicycle to a fish.
I don’t think that you’ve ever been in a LTR.
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Wrong, I have been in every type of relationship that it is possible to have with a women. The current one is now in its sixteenth year. Your intuition is even weaker than your comprehension. Come back to this forum when you have something of your own to contribute.
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When you double your relationship time, come back and talk to me.
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Does your particular form of autism mean you can’t count, or are you claiming that I need to have done thirty two years in one relationship to be as knowledgeable about women as you seem to think you are. The content and nature of your posting to date calls your knowledge and experience into question, and your ineffective reasoning skills makes what you say seem like hubris.
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Give the man a cigar! He got 32. Maybe he can get his other neuron firing, too.
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I’m being gentle with you because you claim you aren’t playing with a full deck and your brain clearly doesn’t function particularly well. If you want to make us all laugh just keep posting the shit you think makes you look clever.
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Keep trying hard, little boy.
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Yeah that’s the stuff
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I’m being playfully rough with you because you obviously don’t understand much about autism. “Autistic” doesn’t mean “socially clueless.” Autism is a developmental thing. Autists develop more slowly socially and athletically than non-autists. It doesn’t mean that we can’t ever become athletes or become socially accomplished. I’ve been invited to a couple of different parties this month, for example. I don’t suck up to people in order to get invited.
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Let us know how you get on.
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One leg at a time. Heh
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[…] Source: Heartiste […]
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it’s 2015 not the 1950s
And all of the women out there lament that simple fact. Haling from closer to the 1950’s then to 2015 I find it interesting that no women want what passes as men these days. If they did, why are so many of them enjoying my bed? Playing with the grey hairs on my chest after I’ve enjoyed them so many ways. I get to hear all about how the guys today are wimps, pansies, and don’t know how to treat a woman. Of course, I’ve been hearing that all of my life – even when I was younger, women would lament that pansy-nature of “modern men”. More than a few these days are bad-mouthing their boyfriends – had one not that long ago that told me her boyfriend of 3 years hadn’t had sex without a condone. Talk about a pansy. I showed her what she’s been missing and she’s been back since. I think she has a bit of a fetish as I get texts from her telling me how she was in class and had to “clean up” the “mess you made in me”, and wanting to know when I could make a mess again… I suspect every time she’s in my bed it’s a smack at the guy that thinks he’s her boyfriend. But I couldn’t care less – I get what I want, nothing else really matters.
So go ahead guys – listen to the drivel of the leftoids and continue as you are – I’m getting old, but never too old to slide it into a sweet young thing… I feel like the old lion walking around in his harem of females – even when they aren’t part of my pack, they will always enjoy being a woman to a man that wants to use them like they enjoy being used.
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Im only 30 and I see the exact same thing…
I have YET to be with a girl who didn’t like it rough (rougher than me, to be honest), so I have a really hard time understanding how some men can not see it.
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Girls like it rough…no doubt.
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Just experienced this myself this weekend, a lesson in pushing the envelope from the get go. Went to a food and drink event in the city. After zeroing in on someone who at the beginning of the evening was pleasant and polite, I progressively upped the ante from tickling, to cuddling and boob grabbing on the street as everyone was farewelling, to dragging her across the street for plausible deniability (coffee) and then into the nearest taxi, with her mock protestations mixed in with giggling. And yes this was calibrated; if I had sensed she was not into it I would have pulled out.
In the shower at my place after lathering each other I pushed her straight down, then once out told her to get out the oil because i was going to take her back passage. again, mock protestations, but complete compliance. the next morning i kept telling her that i was going to spend the whole morning coming all over her; same feigned shock, same giggling afterwards.
provided she’s up for it, boldness plus calibration plus removing responsibility for them is a winner.
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The girl is a stupid, low-inhibition skank who likes to have unprotected sex. Have fun paying for her baby!
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You might not get what you want if the guy finds his inner Supreme Gentleman and puts a bullet in your head.
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I doubt it. The supreme gentlemen types fail at women in a different way than beta schlubs. If he was the type to put a bullet in someones brain, he wouldn’t have a cheating woman in the first place.
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According to R.Don Steele in his classic “How to Date Young Women For Men Over 35”, gray hair is a chick magnet.
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depends elmer… it depends…
This (with the attitude)
or this (with the attitude)
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“depends elmer… it depends…”
You mean Depends.
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“never too old to slide it into a sweet young thing” LOL
I had to laugh at this line. At a local place I go there is a cute 6/7 19 YO bartender. Try not to game her since it’s local but its like a gravitational pull. Anyhow on one visit I see she has a slim ring on her left hand ring finger. We are discussing my drink order, and she says “do you want it” meaning my drink. I laser eye her and slowly say “Yeah – I want it” and she blushes a bit. Then talking with her across the bar and I take her hand with the ring and slowly rub it while laser eyeing and say “soooo… what’s this here, a purity ring?” and she giggles and shakes her head and looks up and says “no… no” with a slightly sly smile… and she tells me about it (whatevs). I let her hand go.
Later they have some thumb wrestling things on the bar and I pick it up and we wrestle and she giggling etc. I take off. Go back a few days later – it’s a big place with a front and a back bar, she is in the back by the foosball tables, just the two of us. So we play foosball and are laughing and having a good time, she’s pretty good. She throws out a ST like, I don’t think you are playing rough enough (like slamming the bars on the table etc). I laser eye her while I slowly pass the ball from back to front and say “well sometimes what’s called for is to slide it in gently at first” and she goes “I don’t think you are talking about foosball” while looking back at me.. then i slot a slow shot in. She beat me though, LOL. I give her a high five and clasp her hand then pull her into me and wrap my arms around her waist and lift her up on me a bit, nuzzle her ear and cheek. Then say thanks for the game! and take off… slow boil.
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Great short movie on “high maintenance” concept: https://vimeo.com/11098509
You’ll like it, I promise 🙂
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“Left wing “thought” is merely a series of rationalizations to gain power, with no consistency necessary.”
Yep. As Lenin said in the movie Nicholas and Alexandra: “Murder, arson, terror, I’ll agree to anything that gives us power.” The real Lenin was probably not quite so forthright, but that sums it up.
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“You are on the wrong side of history”
I love it when shitlibs trot that one out. You know who else was on the wrong side of history? Rome, Weimar Germany, and Kerensky’s Russia, to name a few. Hope the shitlibs live long enough to find out just what the “right side of history” looks like.
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In the world where the pimp hand is wielded like a samurai sword and a man’s frame is ironclad, there is no such thing as a ‘high maintenance’ woman.
The khaki clad dad bods that I’m around everyday in life will not accept this, yet I see them kowtow to their overweight bitchy women like emasculated eunuchs.
A man’s rationalization hamster is just as delusional as a woman’s if not mortified on a daily basis.
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Apropos RealTalk blogging and comments, and “Diversity is a Code Word…” stickers, this little ditty is meaningful, if “she” is a muse:
I told her someday if she was my girl, I could change the world
With my little songs, I was wrong
But she has faith in me, and so I go on trying faithfully
And who knows maybe on some special night, if my song is right
I will find a way
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re: shartiste and ‘high maintenance’ women…
The shit tests start at an early age. This very afternoon, the neighbor’s 8 yo daughter, my older son’s classmate, was giving the boys all the aggression they could handle. Judging from her mother’s appearance, one day, she should be tall, slender and really something to look at.
She didn’t try to dominate either of my sons (they can hold their own), but she was merciless towards the other neighborhood boy who came over to play. She was karate kicking him and yanking his towel away, and he didn’t put up a fight. In fact he whined “Stop!”. So he got more and more of it. One more reason not to be the most beta with girls within a group.
Through the lens of game, it’s easy to see the aggression for what it is: a crude ego skill used to subdue lesser males; they go on, of course, to develop more subtle ones. They have the innate ability to sense which males they can dominate and which ones to give more respect to.
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When I was a toddler I got in a couple fist fights with the local tomboy, whereupon a parent-to-parent conversation was had, and a lecture on how we don’t hit girls because they’re precious flowers was given. Since then, I don’t think I’ve been assertive much, if at all. Any psychoanalysts wanna step up to the plate?
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Daily Stormer – ” The Nature Of Sex: Swedish Prince Marries Bikini Model”
Great Narrative puncture. Very CH-themed. Deserves a wider audience.
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Good comment on “high maintenance”…it’s about boundaries and setting theme early. Girls don’t act out when they feel comfortable.
The problem comes from not being able to distinguish between shit-tests and craziness. Knowing the difference is the key to alpha along with knowing when to walk away.
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Ferraris are high maintenance.
Cost be damned – I wanna take one out and drive it hard.
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Wala, I mostly agree. Girls will act up for all kinds of reasons, whether or not they feel comfortable. Sure, when they are uncomfortable, they will act up unless they are exceptional. And they will blame the man. Most are ruled by their emotions.
Setting boundaries and expectations early is definitely important to forestall problems later.
The older women are, the more comfort they need because they feel less secure. Men who have mastery are more appealing to them than men who are cocky.
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A friend of mine matched on Tinder with certain girl who apparently was a pain in the ass, shit-testing like crazy and gold digger nonetheless.
I asked him her number. I translated the convo. I applied some CH-approved replies.
Me: How much do you weight *(She ain’t chubby but she’s been eating too much)
Her: Who are you?
Me: Your scales
Her: Hahaha
Her: 1.70 m and 58 kg nothing wrong in that honey
Her: How big is your dick?
Me: Frustrated?
Her: Not at all honey
Her: You seem dumb and boring
Her: I am partying. Bye
Me: Does this work on other guys
Her: Are you a man? HAHAHA
Me: For you for a price I can be
Her: You’re ugly, I wouldn’t date anyone who writes like you
Her: You’re that guy from X place right? *(derogatory comment, why’d she give Her number to a guy from certain place?)
Her: Plebs hahahaha
Her: Have fun in the hovels you like to attend too
Me: Is this you trying to be sexy? Doesn’t work
Her: Hahaha
Her: I wouldn’t be sexy for someone like you
Me: Someone from X place broke your heart?
Her: Not my zip code
Me: Well you’re lovely, I’m sure you’ll land a high end guy
Her: I already have a boyfriend, I don’t even live in Y country anymore
Her: Have you heard of Saudi Arabia?
Me: If you have that humor, he must be very good
Her: Yes he is and you’re stupid fuck off
lzozlzozlz
I don’t think I was being defensive, I was laughing my ass off.
Thanks a lot CH.
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Her: “How big is your dick?”
Gotta try it on for size. A test drive is the only way to go.
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Why the fuck would you post this, she made you her bitch, over and over again. There’s nothing here to be proud of. You went for a hard opener then proved yourself to be a complete paper tiger as you broke under the first shit test and she sadistically rained blows upon your head, Frank Constanza style. Next time don’t try to sell what you don’t have.
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Bored out skank: “How big is your d ick?”
You: “I’ll split you in half”
Never be honest, make her wonder. Profit.
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when they ask how big my dick is I send them a picture of it…gets that out of the way right off the bat.
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Speaking of high maintenance…need some input here. 26 year old girl I met online works in a hospital as a lactating specialist….I think she pumps breast milk from new moms or helps them. We’re set to meet up this week for drinks.
I send her this text:
me: Hey milk maid, how’s the weekend?
Her: Do you think that’s respectful?
Wow…shit test already?
I haven’t replied…..but was thinking just: “Behave” but seems there’s probably a better twist to this i’m missing.
Any thoughts are appreciated….
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Insecurity test. She’s insecure about her job.
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Not disrespectful–just playful.
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“So you prefer Dairy Queen”
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golf clap
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2 days ago;
me: I don’t know. Never dated a women who couldn’t cook.
her: Don’t you think that’s sexist?
me: Can you sew and knit?
her: lol. I make up for what I lack in other ways.
when in doubt, double down and keep plowing
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“show me ur milk jugs”
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^^ this. hahaha
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Massive job/personal insecurity.
Blew out a smokin 26YO Starbucks Manager by joking around and called her my “Starbuddy”. Never recovered.
Ends up her family (esp. Grandma) was loaded and had paid for her psych degree and kept breaking her balls because of her job ($60K a year, not terrible)
No amount of walking it back worked, the die was cast. Sucks cause she was ultra-sexy in that unsure girl next door way.
The Struggle (Overgame) is real!
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@Tilikum yes….overgaming is a challenge because once you say what I said….you can’t apologize….you have to continue being a dick.
She may flake…but there’s always that possibility. But I’d rather surface the crap now…rather than waste a night out with someone who’s a complainer… Now pipelining a few possible replacements for Thursday.
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Nah, just give her hamster something to work on. Reframe it as you being playful and her being inappropriately butthurt.
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Overgame is real enough once you are already perceived “Alpha enough”. I suppose your advice is spot on for a beta who would likely lose the opportunity anyway.
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Overgaming is only a problem if you are using a cocky frame. Switch to amused mastery and reframe her objection. That’s a power move, not a weak move. It ain’t beta.
My comment was aimed at Wala–I should have made that clear.
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Tilikum, we agreed on the job insecurity being the issue. Not sure anyone else saw that on their own. Are you able to assume an amused mastery frame?
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Her: “Do you think that’s respectful?”
You: “Always”
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“Do you think that’s respectful?”
“I never cry over spilled milk.”
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Her: Do you think that’s respectful?
Sorry. Ms. milk maid.
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OK: I went with Wook’s
Her: Do you think that’s respectful?
Me: How about Dairy Queen?
Her: Mimi, my name is Mimi, I’m just a normal person
Me: Lolzzzzz
Radio silence…on both our parts. We’re supposed to meet up for drinks on Thursday…will wait til Wednesday to confirm…If I get blown out….oh well…
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Reframe, flow through, don’t be rational. Don’t answer question, do not follow her frame
I laughed my a55 of at milk maid. You can tell you started good when there is sh1 t test already
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This here… Reframe. I think dairy queen is kind of a bust because its still in her frame.
Coming back with something playful about her sense of humor would have been in your frame consistent with you were joking and forced her to qualify more.
I know you don’t care at this point it’s just always interesting to look back and what if. Calibration is always tricky especially on the 7’s. I have to remind myself not to treat everything as a nail and hammer away…
Still the best thing seems to be to get them laughing… Especially at themselves despite themselves. If you can do this it never is bad.
That’s winning with style as opposed to brute force.
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Great comment, Sentient.
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This is no time to go wobbly, George. I’d use the dairy queen thing but as more of a mock apology. “Sorry. But I thought it was too early to tell you I actually think of you as a dairy queen.”
Still mocking, but mixing something like a compliment.
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Walawala – you may have replied already but I would just go with “LOL” and change the subject. Clearly a shit test (it’s possible you’ve already overdone it but unlikely, depending on the girl).
Other option is to A&A, but I think Lol is better here.
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Thanks all. I’ll now wait until Wednesday and confirm the date. If I get push back I’ll take it from there. Meantime I’m meeting up with a 23 year old artist and student I banged first time I met. She sent me a nude “art” shot…I sent her some of the ones I took. Then sent her a link to eroticphoto blog and asked her to send me her 3 favorite photos.
She sent back 2 artsy shots of women in heels.
I sent one artsy shot and one of a chick blowing a dude…which I framed as “Note her intense and focused expression”….
Lots of “oh my’s” on her part…but not once did she suggest not meeting up…
So all these girls are different but the “milk maid” line is pure gold and if she can’t take it rather than overly referring to this as “playful” which is like saying “It’s a joke!” I’ll roll with it.
Will update.
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WW, all that sexual fury which the “23 year old artist and student” is unleashing upon you was given to us by The Creat0r for a Reason. And The Reason was not that the fury should be used purposelessly.
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Sorry, Wala. Sentient had the highest % play, imo.
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Moo
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What does she look like Wala? 6 to 7?
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The milk maid.
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From her photos, the Dairy Queen looked like a 7….cute, young, well-dressed.
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Wala – that makes sense, she is only a 7 at best from your description, some 6/7’s are ego inflated but a large number (seems especially if the girls are much younger than you) are insecure, unsocialized and very willingly assume your higher value. One thing I use now as an early diagnostic on this level of girl is how she reacts to the What Do You Do question response I used of “Bean Farmer”.
If she cocks an eye and in anyway doubts my sincerity, “Bean Farmer? You’re a Bean Farmer?” well here is a girl ready to game harder, more teasing more negs, if she – as many seem to be – is all earnest like “oh really, what kind of beans” or “wow that’s interesting” that kind of thing… she is more likely to be a nice girl and will be put off early with negs and too much teasing (and harder to sexualize early as well).
Maybe try incorporating some early diagnostic gauge.
Anyone have similar issues/do anything like this as a test? YaReally?
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Sentient, I’m still fleshing out what’s involved in insecurity tests. They are very different from 5h1t tests, though they might sometimes be combined with a 5h1t test. It looks like insecurity tests have to be dealt with specifically. Eg, if a woman is concerned that you might be interested in her in order to con her out of money like another man did, then she will need comfort that you aren’t interested in conning her. More commonly, a woman might be concerned that she will be P&D’d, so you will need to reassure her that you won’t ignore her as long as she is sweet to you.
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@Sentient to that question of “What do you do?” I reply: “Animal trainer”…again if it gets a blah or pushy reply I can see this girl is trouble and will game harder.
IF she starts to play around and says “Oh what kind of animals?” Then the banter begins.
It’s a good way to gauge the type of girl you’re dealing with: one who requires harder negs or one who likes playful banter and is more open to being gamed.
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Update, so the milk maid/Dairy Queen flaked. She texted she couldn’t make it this Thursday.
Me; Hmmmm. in that case, if we ever meet up you’re buying the first round.
her: alright
I immediately filled that slot with another I’ve been gaming online who was more playful and receptive: 29, cosmetics girl, short, cute…already sexualizing the chats.
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Heh, heh… Dairy Queen won’t tumble for Mr. Softie.
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Next is a solid play.
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Play nice, Greg.
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I’ll do the hall-monitoring around here, thank you very much.
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You should have left out the opening chuckle. Your joke was fine.
[Note to CH: Where do I open a ticket on Greg’s inadequate self-hall-monitoring? Heh]
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You already got bitch-slapped up above by that other fellow… don’t come poking around here for a real ass-whuppin’, boy.
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Guess again, Fairy. Hie thee to the Masturbatorium!
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Fairy yourself… you’ll have to give me directions as to where such things exist…
I, obviously, will defer to your superior experience in that endeavor… you, who were cited for drilling glory-holes in the rest stops on the NJ Turnpike.
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It is laughable that leftist “feelings” is supposedly the end all and be all of every situation. Those ignorant, head in sand, wankerati, actually believe that “feelings” should control every aspect of one’s life and everything will automatically fall into place thereafter. Moronic reasoning such as that was rampant in Germany in the 1930’s, as they ‘felt’ the enemy were whomever their feelings dictated. That is what those incoherent, feeble, misanthropes, promote. Mindlessness is the precondition they observe and promote.
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It’s odd that an Eskimo would pretend to have a first name of “Christian”.
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Heh. heh… “moronic reasoning” rampant in Germany in the 1930’s… as opposed to Age of Neo-Enlightenment as evinced in the Weimar Republic, Schlomo?
Say what you will about National Socialism, dude… as least it’s an ethos.
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Nuanced Brooklyn Artist
So good because it was almost believable. My favorite SJW/Whiteknight tell is
“I can’t even” or with authority; “I…can’t…even”
When I read someone who writes “I can’t even,” I get so annoyed that I…can’t ..even
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A woman is never high maintenance when she knows she is not the only woman.
jus sayin…
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Not true at all. Being the other woman makes them crazier than usual.
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this
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Dear John, just have to leave them some room to doubt. Don’t rub their noses in it as std. procedure.
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Don’t leave some other broad’s hair in your bed, earrings in the bedroom, panties, etc. Clean up your 5h1t.
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John is correct
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I have a tag suggestion – something about people getting red pilled by life. For example:
“How to get redpilled 101” sounds good.
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Diversity is our greatest strength!!!!!!!
Yeah right.
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That parody of the SJW…. problem is your average SJW wouldn’t realise it’s parody. That’s the scare part. These people have had a humour lobotomy.
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If you’re a manager, you’re no doubt more than familiar with the sweaty palms and butterflies that come with having to deliver bad news. From a poor performance review to firing an employee, the most stressful conversations are those where you’re sure tears or anger will ensue.
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Caption reads : Constraints imposed from Affirmative Action are forcing employers to find alternative ways to meet staffing needs.
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heh – love these
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” high maintenance has become a beta rationalization term. most often it means “I’m not high enough SMV to maintain her”.
What’s high maintenance to you is decidedly low maintenance to Leonardo DeCaprio.”
Since high maintenance already implies high value(and also implies the guy saying this doesn’t have enough value), how is this a rationalization term?It’s an euphemism at best.
A more accurate term for rationalization is a guy dismissing a cute chick by saying “she is not his type” when it is the other way around.
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http://www.reuters.com/article/2015/06/15/us-russia-usa-europe-ministry-idUSKBN0OV19N20150615
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rachael and caitlyn reveal a serious rift in the phony liberal alliance between blacks and gays. She’s made fools of the left as their idiotic rationalizations for jenner are revealed as the total nonsense they were from the start. I don’t see how transgender and transracial are essentially different. The argument for why the two are not equatable just focuses on the specifics of this particular case, not the concept in itself.
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It funny. You think Brady thinks Gizzy is high M? If she had married a billionaire IB…he’d probably find her high M.
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Do we have some sort of Peter Principle here? “Girl’s maintainability rise to the level of man’s incompetence.”
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Nice analogy… and there’s got to be a good line somewhere in re Peter.
Petering Peter Principle?
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Why does some images show up but others does not? Racism!
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Paging GBFM. Heartiste: lzolzozlzozlzozlzoloz.
We have reached societal downfall singularity.
This is women (on the whole — “Woman,” if you want to think in Biblical terms) completely unrestrained by law or social mores:
As GBFM would say, women twerk. That’s what they do. This is what they want to do. They all know in their hearts, down to the every last lawyercunt, that this is what they are here for — to seduce alpha men and get pregnant by them. They know this even though TV tells them to strive to be firefighters and frontline marines since they are 4. All you have to do is go out on halloween (every young, pretty woman’s costume is basically lingerie) or know that 99.9% of them send naked selfies within 40 minutes on tinder.
GBFM’s Adam-and-Even point cannot be illustrated better than this — singularity. Maxed out. Sure, there’s outright porn, but this is supposed to be a normal music video, on youtube, which pops up automatically as “what’s cool music” for every 13 year old girl who goes to youtube.com. This makes Britney Spears videos from 1998 look tame. It’s 4 minutes of HD zoomed in on their butts, bared skinned, oiled up, jiggling.
lzozlozlzozlzoz
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… the music … where is the music?!
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Championing diversity means showing a willingness to listen those from different socio-economic backgrounds.
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More and more, applicants are expected to bring diversity to the table.
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Management commitment to Diversity empowers everyone!
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“For every white person who openly criticizes a dindu nuffin and loses his livelihood, one thousand whites are sufficiently cowed to silence.” (Twitter)
Those same one thousand and ten thousand more are awakening and they will remember.
By the way, did CH coin ‘dindu’? Good to see it take off, and see less use of ‘orcs’ or ‘thugs’ on the cutting edge of dissent speech. An important rule of psychops is to call your adversaries goofy and demeaning names to avoid demoralizing resistance. You call them fearsome names only after you win.
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I also hope that those people who lost their livelihoods for openly commenting on the Texas pool party (a) refused to apologize, (b) immediately spoke with a lawyer.
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Be sure to remind your colleagues about your status as a Woman of Color (WOC).
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Heartiste, these graphics are seen here and on ROK for the first time. As I don’t understand “twitter”, please start a hashtag #LeaveRachelDolezalAlone and attach these original memes along with uplifting empowerment messages.
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More and more, applicants are expected to bring diversity to the table.
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