1. You admire and flirt with other women, but don’t plot to bed them.
If you as a healthy man aren’t admiring attractive women other than your girlfriend, you are depressed and your relationship will suffer. If you are actively figuring out ways to cheat, your monogamous relationship is unsatisfying.
2. She has photos of you and her together in her work cubicle.
It’s so natural for a woman to advertise her relationship status with a committed boyfriend that a conspicuous lack of photos of her boyfriend is strong circumstantial evidence she wishes to hide him from public knowledge and signal to other men that she is available for sexcapades. A man who doesn’t display relationship photos doesn’t necessarily signal dissatisfaction with his girlfriend, because men on average feel less compulsion than do women to engage in such ritual displays.
3. When you go away on a trip by yourself, she worries about your faithfulness.
If instead of her worrying about you, you worry about what she’ll do with her brief spell of freedom, your relationship is unhealthy.
4. The sex is rarely planned.
If you ever catch yourself or your girlfriend saying, “Let’s make tonight a special night”, you have been served notice that your relationship is heading for sickly grounds.
5. She still cares if you remember birthdays and anniversaries.
Aloofness is sexy on a man. Aloofness is the kiss of relationship death on a woman. A woman who has stopped caring for signs of emotional commitment is a woman mentally checked out and fantasizing about a new relationship.
6. Blowjobs are frequently a prelude to coitus.
You can directly track relationship health by the decline in frequency of blowjobs. Each unit decrease in peak monthly blowjob allotment corresponds to a one month decrease in relationship length (unless obviated by threat of divorce theft).
7. You haven’t spent inordinate time waxing nostalgic about shared memories.
Healthy relationships are like a locomotive: powerful, unstoppable, graceful in their precise engineering, motoring to lands unknown. Nostalgia for past romantic achievements is a tacit admission of present romantic stagnation. Save the nostalgia for old age when there’s no threat of upgrade to a more exciting partner.
8. She’s lost her enthusiasm for girls’ nights out.
A woman deeply in love feels less urge to hang out with her single girl friends. She now finds them dispiriting and a bit pathetic. In contrast, a woman dissatisfied with her relationship can’t wait to join the yentas for mimosas. Men, too, enjoy time with their buddies, but use it more as a pressure valve to blow off steam that accumulates in the natural course of monogamous obligation.
9. She’s stopped kissing her cat on the mouth (and other similar pet-loving gestures taken to the clownish extreme) and now treats her pets as they really are — animals, not furry humans.
You might think this is a frivolous signal of relationship health, but intemperate female anthropomorphic intimacy is pregnant with suppressed emotional turmoil.
10. She wants your unsheathed penis inside her.
A woman who prefers you raw dog is a woman who is unafraid to take risks with you. She trusts you, loves you, and wants you to receive as much as, or even more pleasure than, she receives.
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Generally speaking, once a woman is in a relationship she will grant you a margin of beta male error, which means you can be more beta with a girlfriend or wife than you can be with a girl you have just started dating. The width of this margin of beta male error varies commensurate to the intensity of preexisting love she feels for you, and any cultural and genetic factors related to her local surrounding sexual marketplace and her ethnic or racial background, (e.g.: women from more chaotic non-Western countries better appreciate the stability and security that doting beta males offer).
But this is a warning, not an excuse for men in relationships to rest on their beta laurels, for all women, even the loving Slavs, have their breaking points for male weakness and clinginess, beyond which their tolerance drops precipitously. If you sincerely love your girlfriend or wife and you find your relationship beginning to sour, the answer is not, typically, more beta male reassurance game, but more exciting sexy alpha game. The broad contours of women’s desire are universal, even if the details on close examination differ; nearly every woman in the world (except weird biological experiments gone horribly wrong) is a sexually and romantically dichotomous creature, drawn both to the strong, supportive provider and the dominant, aloof challenge.
Your mission in life as a man seeking to maximize his happiness is to appeal to these dueling instincts in women, embrace the entanglement for all its life-affirming exhilaration, and relish the blessings of womanly love. The rest is commentary.
“8. She’s lost her enthusiasm for girls’ nights out.
A woman deeply in love feels less urge to hang out with her single girl friends. She now finds them dispiriting and a bit pathetic. In contrast, a woman dissatisfied with her relationship can’t wait to join the yentas for mimosas. ” Excellent phrasing, but the entire post is completely on the spot. Bravo!
Currently in just such a relationship. Dunno if it will last, but I’m sure enjoying all 10 signs.
Real proud of ya.
intemperate female anthropomorphic intimacy is pregnant with suppressed emotional turmoil
This is obviously true, and kinda sad. The number of young women who lavish attention on pets (dogs as well as cats) as though they were children. Obviously a displaced or unfulfilled maternal instinct- as much else about female herd behavior.
even the loving Slavs
Hm. While Russian and other assorted East European women can often be more feminine, traditional, and romantic than their feminazified Western counterparts (as well as generall much more beautiful), off their native soil (and out of their native cultures) they tend to be the most outrageously brazen and calculating golddiggers known to man. Danger Will Robinson. Knowledge of local language and culture is essential to avoiding that particular trap.
The female dog-owners are the worst. “I’m only home a few hours a day, am not going to bother crate-training, and live in a small apartment, but I’ve always wanted a dog!”
Inevitably, Fido ends up in a barrel behind the animal shelter or foisted off on her parents.
I dog sit for a friend of my step-mom. The lady is pretty nice, but she has this big, fat, nasty English bull dog that she has never been able to take care of. I’ve been watching the thing all through high school now. It’s driven boyfriends away and everything; it slobbers on everything, and smells like death. Truly a repulsive creature. BUT it’s her little angel.
I dog sit for a friend of my step-mom. The lady is pretty nice… I’ve been watching the thing all through high school now. It’s driven boyfriends away…
Is this friend of your step-mom’s fuckable?
Hell, is your step-mom fuckable?
Cause it sounds like it’s time to step up your game, young man.
Time to step up your game.
Haha! I literally never see the lady. And she’s a Filipino anyway, so no thanks.
No one should kid themselves about RUssian women in Russia either, at least in the big cities. I was on a date with an unusually frank and forthcoming woman who said that she tires of her friends incessant conversation about money (how to get more) and men to the point of obsession. She said that talk disappears when one man is around and they turn sweet as pie. Their culture there more resembles black culture here in USA for the ostetentatious displays of money. Someone could live in a Soviet tenement but they will drive the absolute best car they can afford to make payments on. I spent New Years with a girl who lived with her parents in one of those and her Dad drove a Big Land Cruiser. The furs…whatever people can see is what’s valued. They had nothing for so long
Truth. Russian and Polish women, but especially polish are notorious here for being extremely materialistic and also being quite upfront about their materialism. I find it very telling when the men I rep for family litigation (most of my family law clients are males actually…but I digress) in divorce matters all have eastern European wives with an overwhelming majority been polish. There is the one particularly sweet (read beta) client whose lived in common law with this woman for TEN YEARS before she conned him into tying the knot. They met while she was preggers with some other bro’s baby. Three years after getting married guess who gets hit with divorce papers wants him to give her the house mortgage free and collect 70% of his income? Sad
On #6:
Jenny McCarthy once was married some herbie director guy—naturally, because what alpha man would marry a skank who takes off her clothes for public attention?
Anyway, they made some awful movie with her and Carmen Elektra that he directed. They began the divorce whilst filming, and it was acrimonious. But they were contractually required to do the DVD commentary together—forcing them to sit in the same room for 2+hours and talk about a film riddled with their own growing hatred for each other, after they were finally divorced.
Bets line of it? McCarthy stating “You know, I stopped swallowing six months into the marriage.”
Bang. Fits right in wih point #6 above.
Was it “Dirty Love”? Man, that was a steamy coil of soft-serve.
Man, that was a steamy coil of soft-serve.
—That’s just what we call pillow talk, baby.
Also, RAPE!
Back in line raper!
That;s what she said!
She pointed you out in the line up. Nice.
You only remember the ones you love.
poetry.
In re: #3. The lack of visible worry when you go on a trip on your own is not necessarily a danger sign. I learned a bitter lesson a long time ago: The third-best way to ensure a guy is going to cheat is to accuse him of doing so. (The first and second are: 1) Frequently deny sex; and 2) Let yourself go physically.) I didn’t make the first two mistakes, but I did make the third, and he got sick of it. He figured if he was going to have the name, he might as well have the game. And with time and perspective, I realized he was right.
Now, it’s normal to worry about your partner cheating. But I’ve got a new philosophy now: If he’s going to do it, he’s going to do it. All I can do is avoid the #1 and #2 reasons, and leave him the hell alone about what he does when I’m not around. No snooping, no pestering phone calls, no “So did you meet any hot girls at that resort where the conference was held? Huh?”
Also, in re: #8: I hate it when my girlfriends abandon me when they have a new relationship. I always make a point of continuing to hang out with them when I’m seeing someone, although it might be slightly less frequently. Say, once a month instead of every weekend. In much the same fashion that I would not expect a guy in an LTR with me to abandon his poker nights or whatever. People need friends.
If she’s not worried when you walk out the door, you haven’t done your job as a man. Instill fear, dread, and longing.
If I want fear and dread, I’ll forget to say “nicto” and wake the Deadites.
>>>I’ll forget to say “nicto” and wake the Deadites
You should do that anyway – Bruce Campbell will show up to kick their asses, and you can swoon over his awesomeness and badassery.
“n-huh-cough-cough”
“Name’s Ash. Housewares.”
“London Bridge is falling down…falling down…FALLING DOWN!”
“Rape—Rape—-Rapey!”
Try to get that new tag line out of your head when you hear that song again.
My Fair Lady!
Instill fear, dread, and longing.
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its easier to just take your guitar with you.
[CH: Actually, guitar practice is hard work. Dread is easy and fun.]
did that go over your head CH?
[CH: Heaven’s to betsy!]
Nobody said anything about practicing? Look at it this way; what could you walk out of your house with that would make her think you never need to come back?
[I’m with whorefinder on this one. Her sister. But seriously, what happens when she asks you to play a diddy?]
did that go over your head CH?
—Beware the enemies you make, nigs. You aren’t that smart.
Nobody said anything about practicing
“We’s talking about practice, yos!”–Allen Iverson, legend in his own mind.
Look at it this way; what could you walk out of your house with that would make her think you never need to come back?
—Her sister.
Not everybody’s as insecure as you, whore.
Nobody’s banned you for butthurtery…
Not everybody’s as insecure as you, whore.
–To an aunti J, anyone who contradicts her stupidity with facts is “insecure.” Your latest omega-israeli lover sure likes abuse.
“But seriously, what happens when she asks you to play a diddy?”
I guess, I don’t know, he’d dominant and aloof?
I don’t like to either, but I’ve spent my entire 20s shacked up and the girls nights are not fun. It is two divergent purposes. I am there to talk and laugh with my friends, and they are there hoping to meet a man. It gets really boring, especially when guys hit on you, and kindly reject them (“OMG don’t tell them you’re MARRIED!”)..and then you get in trouble for “cockblocking.” Bah. What a mess.
Usually it’s better to all go out as a group. My husband is my favorite drinking partner anyway…..
Try dating a *truly* good man. Such a man would not cheat. But you find him unattractive precisely because he’s a good man.
why if you are a good man you must cheat in front of her face honestly to be able to have hand
” …But you find him unattractive precisely because he’s a good man. … “
Sadly true.
Women never appreciate betas….until the wolves are at the door.
Or, as Rorschach put it:
“They’ll scream ‘save us!’ And I’ll whisper….’no.”
Untrue. I <3 betas. Dependable, low-drama, and so much less likely to hit you or cheat on you.
All that has to happen to cause this preference is to have an awful experience with a guy who either is an alpha, or is desperately trying to be one. It helps if this is a very early experience.
I know there are women out there who seem to enjoy being hit–Rihanna, anyone?–but I’m not among them. Being hit *hurts.*
I know there are women out there who seem to enjoy the drama of being cheated on and kept twisting in the wind, but I’m not among them, either. Drama is a *pain in the ass.* If you’re over 22 years old and still seeking out drama, you’re a moron.
I’ll pick a masculine beta, somebody who returns my phone calls but isn’t a total pussy, every time.
As we’ve both noted before, however, you’re an outlier. Most women are the logical clownrapelovers that you are.
It’s not the good that makes them unattractive. It’s the capitulating.
A man who is only good when he has no choice but to be is not being good. He’s being docile. Docility is not attractive. A guy who can be bad choosing to be good is attractive because it is a choice.
So…when my boyfriend goes abroad or has to be away for a long time, I do worry that he might meet someone who can take him away, but I don’t dump that on his head. I just make sure that hypothetical bitch will have a tough act to follow.
^Exactamundo.
Why did you post this when the Sendgrid company was just destroyed by angry males for employing the radical feminist who complained about a lame joke about dongles at the PyCon conference?
This story is much bigger than just the small manosphere wave rippling over at GLPiggy.
The biggest news is that the Anonymous organization is apparently on our side.
They ordered an attack on Sendgrid because Adria Richards represented them as a rep.
Half of their companies are dropping them and Sendgrid had to publicly fire the fembot to save the rest of its business.
She thought she could destroy men’s careers because of an immature joke she overheard and another remark that wasn’t an off-color joke at all.
http://techcrunch.com/2013/03/21/a-dongle-joke-that-spiraled-way-out-of-control/
Read the comments and notice that Silicon Valley is on the side of the manosphere now. Noone is defending the fembot.
It’s a landmark day when a radical feminist is fired for being radioactive to a company that employs her.
Maybe the feminists will stop doxxing people and handle small incidents in a proportionate manner.
One thing I don’t like is that there are many women condemning Ms. Richards for what she did but saying “If she had warned the men not to joke and they had been snippy with her, she would have then had the right to photograph them and publicly shame them on the Internet”.
No. Nobody should publicly shame those they have minor unfriendly alteractions with. We’re definitely not ready for a world with Google Glass (people can start filming what they are seeing through their glasses at any time without warning).
We still have the issue that the manboob Playhaven CEO still thinks it was right to fire his male employee for the immature joke a radical feminist overheard.
http://blog.playhaven.com/addressing-pycon/
The most obviously egregious aspect of that event was that the dudes were talking among themselves- the chick was basically eavesdropping, offended by comments that were not directed at her and did not involve her. I’m surprised that none of the commentary today focused on that. If the concept of “sexual harrassment” can be stretched to include overheard remarks in a public place, we’re pretty close to thought control.
That said, of course the outcome is good- all we need is for the dude to be reinstated at his job, since he did nothing wrong.
Correction: the Anonymous statement does, in fact, focus on the overheard aspect.
Now there’s a feminist backlash at Sendgrid for firing the feminist
http://www.theatlanticwire.com/technology/2013/03/adria-richards-sendgrind-fired/63400/
and they are attacking their fellow journalists for not being totally against Sendgrid for doing that
http://venturebeat.com/2013/03/21/breaking-adria-richards-fired-by-sendgrid-for-outting-developers-on-twitter/
Go to Twitter and do a search for @sendgrid and @adriarichards
Now Mashable has a story on this. Comments are almost all in favor of Sendgrid
http://mashable.com/2013/03/21/sendgrid-fires-adria-richards/
A Voice for Men writes about it
http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/dongle-gate-the-sterilization-of-men-in-tech-culture/
Sendgrid is going to be in a wee bit of trouble now because all of the feminists are coming out of the woodwork, especially on twitter, to say they fired a “whistleblower against sexism”.
But that only sends a message to all companies not to hire feminists in the first place when there is such a risk of backlash when you have to fire them.
This is all good. The woman’s conduct was so egregious in this case that mass opinion will be against her.
Hiring women is a complete disaster in any industry. THey do no work and do nothing but cause problems like this.zzz
“Hackers Got a Woman Fired by a Startup After She Called Out Sexual Harassment”
That Atlantic screed is so sick that I couldn’t finish it. Our civilization is now poorer for its existence, and I hope it further damages their credibility.
Another woman in the tech field outs Joan of Arc as having run this troll before.
https://amandablumwords.wordpress.com/2013/03/21/3/
“An Established Pattern of Action
Why don’t I enjoy Adria? I met her in New York some years ago at a conference and invited her to speak at a conference I was organizing in Boston. She was a very good speaker and I wanted her to help our beginners. She’s not an easy person- she didn’t like the title of her talk, she didn’t like her time slot, etc. Two weeks before the conference, we got a few emails from attendees that she had just threatened on her podcast to boycott our conference because one of our speakers, Danielle Morrill was giving a lightning talk about how to use screencasting software called “Getting the Money Shot”.
She’d never told us she was offended, she’d never told Danielle- she told her podcasting audience and blog readers that we were promoting porn. In the end, after great drama, she attended and deep sixed her talk, instead lecturing the attendees about how porn wasn’t acceptable at conferences. The beginners in her class were less than amused and ultimately, deprived of the opportunity to learn from her.
At the time I was really angry and frustrated. We were unpaid volunteers organizing this event, and she never gave us the opportunity to try and solve the problem and was about to leave us in the lurch. By the time it blew up (an explosion created entirely by her) we felt cornered and blackmailed.
The following year, she took offense to a t shirt created for WordCamp SF, pictured below.
XKCD generously allowed their comic to be used. Instead of contacting Jane Wells , who was in charge of the project and is easily reachable, she made the situation immediately public and rallied her troops.”
Admittedly, giving a talk entitled “Getting the Money Shot” is asking for problems.
It’s indeed already accepted that professional conversations must be regulated to create a “non-hostile” “trigger-free” “safe” “female-friendly” environment” (female “sensitivity” was one of the reasons for their past exclusion, but of course feminism is not revolutionary, it’s just a reversal, this time with the goal of excluding men). This battle can never be won, despite this one counter-example, because no one can treat women as equal to men, that is ignore them.
When you walk out your front door, you enter a world where other people have other ideas. Thinking that you can take your warm bubble with you is the epitome of entitlement thinking. Instead, you should EXPECT to be offended in minor ways all day long… that’s how the world works, not all the gears have grease between them.
Saw this last night. She’s disgusting. It’s sad that these two guys had their lives ruined over a silly joke because some PC feminazi was “offended.”
I am surprised none of the commentators are defending her. That “news” site is pathetic. It’s filled with awful suck-up writers who mostly re-hash other news stories and tech dickheads who have to use DISRUPTIVE to describe any change in a product no matter how inconsequential.
The comments on Playhaven’s facebook page (posts from others, not highlights) are all about how the manboob ceo needs to hire the programmer back because he was a victim of Adri Richards’ bullying.
Or else the programmer community will boycott Playhaven.
It’s sad that these two guys had their lives ruined over a silly joke because some PC feminazi was “offended.”
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Patrice has it figured out; listen and learn fellas
Notice how when this poor guy loses his job for hurting . . . nobody, there is nary a peep outside the usual manosphere haunts. When this woman loses here job for engaging in very public behavior that harmed an individual and embarrassed and harmed her employer (not to mention extremely obnoxious cuntery), suddenly we see a myriad of articles about how “It Should Never Have Come to All This!!!!” These writers, of course, claim they think neither should have been fired, but they wouldn’t have given a shit if nothing had happened to her.
A tempest in a teapot. The feminists will win how they always win: by being able to define the rules of the game. If she didn’t ask her mangina friends to send the false rape threats then there are always manginas who will do so without asking in order to further the narrative. Failing that there are males who will do it out of rage without thinking how they are harming their own cause.
Also, it is delicious that a couple of hipsters with their stupid beards are being roasted by feminists. Red-on-red.
1. You admire and flirt with other women, but don’t plot to bed them.
I think (hope) so. Sounds healthy.
2. She has photos of you and her together in her work cubicle.
I don’t. I think it’s a little gay and I’m a minimalist. He is the background to my phone though.
3. When you go away on a trip by yourself, she worries about your faithfulness.
A little. Not actual hand-wringing….but a “be good” followed with a few racy pics is in order.
4. The sex is rarely planned.
“Let’s make tonight a special night” sounds really gay. Planning sex is weird, no offense. Stuff like that feels awkward.
5. She still cares if you remember birthdays and anniversaries.
Yes, I care. Neither of us are into birthdays or anniversaries- I usually get a sweet card and shopping money. We have forgotten both our relationship and marriage anniversaries two years in a row, though- woops.
6. Blowjobs are frequently a prelude to coitus.
NUNYA
7. You haven’t spent inordinate time waxing nostalgic about shared memories.
We wax nostalgic about stuff sometimes. Our lives used to be very different, so I think it’s nice to remember the past. We have a lot of funny stories we like to tell ourselves. I notice it’s less often now as we talk about future plans more.
8. She’s lost her enthusiasm for girls’ nights out.
Yes. Girls nights out are a way to meet dudes. They serve no other purpose. Last time I went out alone with just girls was one party at Fashion Week 2010, so imagine. And most people go to those things for the free stuff.
I have felt zero desire to go out with my friends alone, especially to clubs.
9. She’s stopped kissing her cat on the mouth (and other similar pet-loving gestures taken to the clownish extreme) and now treats her pets as they really are — animals, not furry humans.
That’s disgusting. Cats are weird.
10. She wants your unsheathed penis inside her.
Condoms are stupid. I think we used them for a week. They’re just so….unsexy.
True story, pre-red pill days (4 years ago). Hot 20 yr old pixie ex-gf started requesting condom use, followed by no more blowjobs, followed by no more morning sex. Writing was on the wall. Went thru phone @ 3am saw incriminating messages, I sent the guy a naked pic of myself that was on her phone with ‘Sorry I’ve been busy doing him’
Next morning dumped her. Oh well
Well played sir, well played.
@maurice – a Python developer with mobile experience will find another job in no time. An over-hyped PR person with a toxic reputation on the other hand… She’s supposed to be building rapport with nerdy guys who use SendGrid’s services, not alienating them. Given her performance, she will probably never work in the tech industry again. I viewed the Playhaven blog – I was sickened to see my country-men being such spineless pussies.
Yeah. I think this guy will land on his feet one way or another. Despite the huge amounts of bullshit in the tech world, they tend to be a pragmatic lot and good talent is hard to find.
Any youngish woman in tech who can’t laugh at a good genitalia joke is doomed. This bitch looks like she was a hard-core liberal arts major with zero sense of humor. Why would anyone go into an industry culture that they’re opposed to?
It’s worse. She had just tweeted her own off-color joke a few minutes before. It was about the TSA
She was being totally hypocritical when she complained about a joke exactly like the one she just thought of and tweeted to ten thousand followers. I found her joke more offensive actually. In fact one of the “jokes” she was offended by was not a joke and not offensive. She misunderstood the phrase “I’d like to fork that repo” as being sexual but it really meant “I’d like to use that open source code to fork off in another direction”. The men were doing their jobs when they said that. The only firable offense the guy did was smirk at the thought of the phrase “big dongle”. Juvenile and beta to bother smirking at that, but nothing remotely worth getting upset about or firing someone for.
You can write [email protected] to ask the CEO to rehire the guy.
Why would anyone want to work for a place like that anyways?
drawn both to the strong, supportive provider and the dominant, aloof challenge.
Your mission in life as a man seeking to maximize his happiness is to appeal to these dueling instincts in women, embrace the entanglement for all its life-affirming exhilaration, and relish the blessings of womanly love. The rest is commentary.
””””””””””””””””
yea makes sense
chick we never fucked for two days before
me yes we have
he he he
quivering mound of emotion and flesh he he he
relished those after orgasm tears
she said she had a dream about me coming in her house and taking her stuff and throwing it in truck and taking her with me
unlike with new chick on why she loved me she came up with the definitive list of everything like the energizer bunny she kept going and going
I’m like you really want to be with me forever even if we stop fucking and I become an asshole
she said yes and your already an asshole
lolzzzzzzz
guys if you want to run game on exes and want to fuck them tell them that your dick don’t work on other chicks and that you need to see if it works on them
prob some decent game he he he
I mean it really happened to me but ahhh you could embellish a bit I guess if ya wanted to
Holy shite, dude. How did you get so wise?
My relationship meets almost all of these yet I don’t feel like it’s healthy. Though I will say we plan sex more and more because I try to put it off.
oh god shut the fuck up.
lol yup
Its one of those times you just wish you could reach through a computer and slap some one.
RAPE!
Yeah but your boyfriend is married.
Hint: That’s not sign #11 of a healthy relationship
lol
gross
Feministx,
I will ask here the same questions I asked in the previous thread,
You really hate having sex with him, was it always like that from the beginning?
If not, what has changed?
Mine’s got 9 of 10.
Last night she went out with a girlfriend who is a bit of a landwhale. I’m not worried.
Great list. (fist bump)
PyCon fiasco is hilarious. I’m relieved hacker news took the side of the dude (for the most part). I was worried those beta nerds would buckle. Some of the strongest white-knighting I’ve ever seen have been from tech guys.
A few points:
-Nothing would have happened if those guys had been black (do I even need to point that out?). But who am I kidding, you’re more likely to see a black guy at a Klan rally than at PyCon.
-The bitch had some retard title like “Developer Evangelist”. The few self-titled “Evangelist” I’ve met have had egos the size of blimps. Same goes for “Java Rockstars”. Some programmers take huge ego-trips because they work in a somewhat esoteric (yet in-demand) field.
-She is likely a diversity hire who can’t code and does not contribute in anyway. Taking up BS causes helps her stave off the existential terror she feels from being a human leech.
-Professional male-female relationships will become even more strained in the tech world over fear of offending anybody. Dudes will be walking on eggshells next PyCon…
I don’t work in the tech world, and hadn’t heard of “Developer Evangelist” before this brouhaha. From some of the articles, I got the impression that it was some glorified euphemism for either HR lady or PR lady. In other words, a way to have a token woman in a tech company, since nowadays you can’t just put them in the typist pool or have them fetch coffee.
I work in IT and I don’t know what the fuck an evangelist does.
I met some who actually do coding. But you’re probably right that it is typically a BS HR title.
I don’t think evangelist even has anything to do with writing actual code. It’s just a PR thing.
Damn, this one brings back memories. You really haven’t lived until you’ve been the main alpha in your girlfriend’s life
Sorry to be off topic but this is too disgusting,
Illegal Mexicans in new commercial demand Americans pay for their health care
http://patdollard.com/2013/03/illegal-mexicans-in-new-commercial-demand-americans-pay-for-their-healthcare/
“We are all one people.”
Which people is that? They can’t say “Americans” so they use a verbal sleight-of-hand.
The health of her cat is directly proportional to the health of her hamster. The cat is the outward projection.
If the cat escapes and doesn’t return or is found dead of starvation or dehydration, it is a very good sign. If kitty is sick and she talks about having the vet end its misery instead of spending $$$ treating it, your relationship is healthy.
Similarly if it is a dog, who has not yet bitten her face off. If the dog runs into some inaccessible nether region when you are present and she forgets about it, it is also a good sign.
A woman who can kill her animal without thought or concern is not a woman capable of loving you.
If a woman can (for example) leave a rabbit in a cage without water or food for two weeks while she’s on vacation (like an ex-friend of mine once did) and not care, it’s a pretty fair bet she’s either BPD, a narcissist or otherwise psychologically unable to maintain a healthy relationship (like my ex-friend, who was a HUGE slut).
That’s one extreme, of course. The others are: women who only buy animals after break-ups, who own a pit bull for any reason, who accessorize that animal as if it’s some kind of doll, talk to it instead of train it, or freak out at the very suggestion of euthanasia when it’s well past the point nature would have already recycled said animal back into the circle of life.
Nothing wrong with properly caring for animal. But being on one end of the spectrum or the other is usually an indication that something’s wrong.
+1000.
Well said.
I think there’s a middle ground to be found. Sure, it’s bad if she’s an animal hoarder who thinks her pets are people, but I also wouldn’t want to live with someone who is too lazy to walk a dog or have kids with someone who can’t even maintain a cat…
People who desire pet ownership are childish, male or female.
I’m Jay in DC, back from the dead, and I approve this message… this post is 100% on target with my experience. I’d also add 11) She takes an interest in your life. I’ve found that all my relationships that were on the downslide also consisted of one thing, complete lack of interest in the other person’s life.
This is a pretty good point.
I don’t find myself genuinely interested in a girl’s life all that often, but when I do, I know she’s good LTR material. Then obviously it goes the other way, too. I love it when a girl just can’t learn enough about me; then I love leaving her hanging.
commensurate(ly) holmes
what about changing her facebook relationship status?
[CH: If there were a #11 it would say: “A woman in a healthy relationship drifts away from the habit of constantly updating her online presence.”]
I leave pics of half-naked girls as my wallpaper constantly. Change them every couple of weeks. She always gets indignant for half a minute until I tell her it’s my computer and I can do what i want with it. Usually ends in sexy time, so I think I have #1 covered without even having to leave the house. Remember boys, if a pic of a supermodel all done up can’t turn you on, your woman probably won’t either, and deep down she knows that.
Are me and CH dating the same chick?
Slavic / Russian women like their men to have a set of balls. They don’t want to be the one who wears the pants in the relationship but they can only do that if the man does. They are far happier in a traditional role and won’t compete with you the same way an American woman will.
lol at #10.
Patrice O’Neal has a great bit where he tells guys, “as a man, it’s your job to go raw as soon as possible. cuz when you do, it’s ‘go ahead on pimp’. if you’re a woman, the sooner you go raw….well, yeah, you look like a ho. because safe sex….is a WOMAN’S responsibility.”
then he asks the audience if they’ve ever heard of a dental dam- “you know, it’s a napkin like object, that you place over the vagina in case you know….it’s poison.” he then posited that if a man suggests that he use a dental dam a woman would lose her mind at such an “insult”.
but God forbid a man turn down using a condom. no WAAAAAAY should we be insulted by suggesting a man MIGHT have something. aaaaah the hypocrisy.
great post.
CH, I really admire your posts. But what I like to ask is this: basically I am on a non-western country. I have been reading your articles for quite some time and it really helped me to a certain degree. I always had this non apologetic attitude and now I distplay more ego than ever. Is it possible to adversely affect the relationship (of 7 years) if you use too much game or asshole behavior? what are the signs that a relationship is suffering because of these alpha traits instead of the beta ones?
All 10 check.
Good.
It confirmed my previous assesments that things are running fine.
“Beta male error” — this is an excellent term, and one I have thought about even if I did not have words for it. When you’re in a relationship, women should allow some beta behavior.
Of course, in the worst dating environments any showing of anything less than action star bravado sends them running for the hills or, more likely, into the arms of the other guy they already started seeing.
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A VERY healthy sign in a marriage is that your wife never EVER denies sex. She is ALWAYS ready to please her Alpha husband. Period. End of story. And a good wife will automatically move into doggy position WITHOUT being asked. (This is an excellent sign that you’ve got hand and she loves you for it).
Ask ANY divorce lawyer out there. The first question they always ask is, “Are you still having sex?” If the answer is “no,” the marriage is finished.
Fuck the Slavs… don’t ever marry one. Outside of Russia, where their hubby can beat the fucking shit out of them and keep them in line, the alphaist American male will be a cuckold and financially raped if he ever puts a ring on her finger.