When your girl tries to make you jealous, you have four options, in ascending order of personal benefit and relationship management effectiveness:
- act butthurt
- promptly try to make her jealous
- tease her*
- ignore her
Act butthurt, defensive, or otherwise emotionally pained, and you can count in hours the time to her dumping you.
Immediately attempting your own jealousy incitement ploy risks seeming ham-fisted and try-hard. She will see through a blatant table-turning maneuver. It’s better to spin your jealousy plotlines when they aren’t kneejerk prompted by her own jealousy provocations. However, a prompt response that may include flirting with another woman is better than an emotional outburst that will tell your girl she has “won” this battle and has you wrapped around her finger.
*I added this choice after commenter Jakius reminded me of it. Of course, teasing is a great response — “hey you may want to try licking your lips next time, your flirting is really bad, needs work” — and it was an oversight on my part to leave it off (in fact, teasing and ignoring are my go-to options whenever a girl tries to make me jealous).
Ignoring her is imo the best response. (I find teasing can be misconstrued by your girl as evidence that she unsettled you, especially if you have trouble teasing with the required amused mastery while in the fog of actual jealousy.) She will seethe with impotence. Acting like you don’t even notice her attempts to stoke your jealousy is a nuclear nonverbal neg. It’ll cause her ploy to completely rebound against her, and she’ll start pressing you for your attention.
You could NEXT her, but that’s a trigger happy response associated with hotheads. Every girl has her moments when she wants to incite an angry possessive passion from her lover. The NEXT option should be saved for chronic manipulators.
Ignoring her is a short term solution for those infrequent moments when your girl lapses into insecurity or entitlement. But a chronic offender needs a stronger corrective. Chronic abusers of the jealousy tactic will need eventual punishment (either leaving her or lowering the boom on her). The boom-lowering option can be accomplished by, in stern but controlled language and in clear terms, telling her to cut the shit or you’ll take your leave. The other boom-lowering corrective is basically Dread Game: a slow burn type of searing instructional that adjusts her behavior incrementally, slowly, but profoundly for the better.
For instance, say your girl tries to make you jealous. The Dread Game option would involve you openly flirting with another girl in view of your gf. If she doesn’t cut it off with the dude she’s flirting with and come shimmying back wondering what you’re up to, get ready to end it with her. (9 out of 10 times, she’ll crack first under the pressure of dueling jealousy plotlines as long as your frame is solid, thick, tight.)
It’s good to instill in your woman the knowledge that you have options and won’t hesitate to use them if she disappoints you, and this can be accomplished many ways but most permanently and effectively through your attitude which should subcommunicate at all times that you aren’t a domesticated eunuch.
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Captain Obvious, with the Comment of the Week:
Either pwn thyself, or prepare to be pwned by someone else.
Nice. This spiffy aphorism is the central thesis of relationship management, and really, of all human interaction.
Inner Frame is so very crucial here. If she doesn’t see the Value in you, then to he11 with her – there’s a hundred moar where she came from.
And if your Inner Frame isn’t quite there yet, then grit your teeth, suck it up, and fake it til you make it.
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If you still give a G0d D@man what a filthy sinking THOT thinks of you, then you haven’t spent enough time staring into The Abyss.
As the Ancestors once said: Pwn Thyself. http://bit.ly/1W6IYiz
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Either pwn thyself, or prepare to be pwned by someone else.
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This is comment of the week too.
Sad females can’t see the Abyss (and the exceptional ones who guess its presence will go to any length to look away from it. “It would hurt me.” LOL).
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so I chose the 5th option- walk out. Bitch took some dumb woman’s side in a discussion, was rude to me a lot of the night, dunno wtf her problem was. I walked out on her as she was yelling to me across a room full of people, calling my name. Did not even look back, just got my coat and left.
She chased me outside and asked me to just please hit her. Begged me to.
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[…] Your Daily Game: Thot Training […]
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You forgot:
4. Tease her.
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The one time I had to deal with this, in a LTR, I got her aside and said “You stop it, or I stop it – your choice.”. Maybe its what you guys call the butthurt beta approach but it worked instantly. The ambiguity of “it” and I never said how I’d stop it or anything further maybe is the key to why it worked.
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guys should train themselves early in life to EXPECT the type of behavior from women that turns them on. ie., submissive, flirty, giving, funny, sexy, etc. this is what you should EXPECT from a woman, and not feel like you have to ask for. follow your man tingles.
so if girl pulls a jealous ploy and your first, unadulterated, instinctive response is a) “gross” and b) “get me as far away from this piece of garbage as possible” then you’re doing it right. (because it IS gross behavior).
so yeah, gross ==> ignore shows you have standards, and whether or not your discriminating behavior hooks the girl is irrelevant because now it’s HER job to win you back, which shouldn’t be easy to do because you’re busy with other nice girls who aren’t so cheap and manipulative, and who so genuinely appreciate your company that they wouldn’t risk losing you by pulling cheap stunts.
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EXPECT: yep, it’s all in Darwinism’s rough – heh – justice. Each pot deserves a shot at the lid that fits it best.
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SF, so much of this gets back to the question as to how much of a chick’s behavior is innate versus how much of it is subject to alteration via the Frankfurt School’s saturation poisoning of the culture?
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This sh!znat is so impossibly difficult for a young man to figure out – he’s got no reference frame of experience which could help him to make a decision as to whether a chick’s misbehavior is more or less to be expected [within a normal bandwidth of percolating female insanity] or whether she’s already showing warning signs of a relationship maelstrom which will destroy him.
OTOH – Je$us H Chr!st – if you sit around waiting for the Perfect Woman to waltz into your life then you’re NEVER gonna have any ch!llunzzzezes.
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isn’t “innate” behavior subject to which behavior is selected for? and who’s doing the selecting?
IOW, if the frankfurt can select for bottomless-rapacious-civilization-wrecking-whore behavior then why can’t we select for sexy-monogamous-nice-girl behavior?
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“why can’t we select for sexy-monogamous-nice-girl behavior”
That’s PRECISELY what we need to be selecting for.
But my G0d it’s so tough for a young guy who doesn’t have the life experiences yet to alert him to the warning signs.
It’s getting to the point where a father NOT teaching Game [& RedPill EvoPsych & DarkEnlightenment] to his son is friggin ch!ld abuse.
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IMO, unleashed hypergamy >>> Frankfurt, although of course they’re related: Jews helped slip the leash. Once broads feel patriarchy declining, the innate emerges.
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SF: exactly. And in PJ’s initial vignette – “if girl pulls a jealous ploy” – it’s not clear to me whether she’s doing it consciously [i.e. she’s simply Evil] or whether she’s not consciously aware of it [i.e. it’s just her innate Hypergamy].
But in either case – conscious Evil or unconscious Hypergamy – a guy’s Inner Frame needs to kick and start screaming at him “Dude, you deserve BETTER than this!”
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Monkeys climb trees. They trapeze around the jungle from tree to tree with innate ability – and never let go of one branch until they have another firmly in grasp. Naturally, Trees that bend to pressure aren’t secure and can’t be trusted – so monkeys avoid those.
Monkeys have changeable appetites. If a monkey has a banana, it wants an apple – if it has an apple, it wants a mango. The monkey cannot control itself – and will risk what it has for what it wants. Monkeys want most what other monkeys have.
Monkeys don’t think anything of feeding from one tree and sleeping in another. They’ll happily crap on the tree that they eat from – but won’t do that to the tree they sleep in – the want exclusive access to the highest branches of the sleeping tree so they don’t get pissed on.
That is the nature of monkeys.
Trees aren’t swayed by the comings and goings of monkeys – they’re focused on growing tall, having strong roots and bearing fruit. They’re competing with other trees. Trees are noble – with or without monkeys.
Trees use monkeys to spread their seed and create large stands of trees of the same species. Tree diversity is not natural – Trees defend against invasive species by not attracting monkeys which indiscriminately introduce the seed of others trees.
Trees have a dilemma. They need seed carrying monkeys – but the nature of monkeys is such that you risk getting crapped on and cuckolded by an invasive species.
Trees need loyal monkeys – and nothing keeps a monkey loyal like knowing that if it craps on a tree or so much as reaches for another branch that it can lose a commanding spot in the sleeping tree to another monkey.
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“so if girl pulls a jealous ploy and your first, unadulterated, instinctive response is a) “gross” and b) “get me as far away from this piece of garbage as possible” then you’re doing it right. (because it IS gross behavior).”
Plus, women are able to tell the difference between pained butthurt and contempt/disgust. You’d think they might miss the difference, but it appears they don’t.
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Here’s the process:
Man shows pained butthurt -> hamster says “it’s a BETA!” -> she reacts in an amused, happy, “yes, I got him!” fashion
Man shows contempt/disgust -> hamster says “it’s an ALPHA!” -> she reacts in an embarrassed, or even a horrified, fashion
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One other option that HBomb Oracle left off the table of his 4 options is to bring in another guy and stare her down.
Make her feel like a weirdo. Why not? Girls do it all the time to guys. (“Eeeuuuw, he’s a CREEEEP.”) Suggest she’s overstepped a social line. Just as logic is irrelevant with women (they have none), they sense of what social lines are is ALSO irrelevant. Make ’em up.
Your friendly update from your Lord, X.
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…and Saucyphag has moved on to his next recycled nom de plume. Yawn.
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Your friendly update from your Lord, X.
“They sought a god, but got a clod.”
(((shakin’ mah haid)))
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Change from staring her down to looking at the beta tool she’s flirting with like he’s dog shit, and it’s not bad advice.
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“Act butthurt, defensive, or otherwise emotionally pained, and you can count in hours the time to her dumping you.”
Plus, she gets a big charge out of adding you to her Girl Notch count. The other reactions except ignoring do too, to a lesser extent. Ignoring is the only thing that a man who was truly ZFG would do.
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In my experience, ignoring her only causes her to double down. I have had a couple of women spend more than a year at that, and then break down and cry when I told them a decade later I was marrying someone else (what did they expect). Why go through that (or put them through it)?
I say break up with them. If you could get a woman as attractive as her once, you can do it again.
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If you still want her after what she pulled:
– ignore her
– if she brings it to your attention again, wait for it to finish
– ask her if she is done, indifferently
THEN
– assign her a menial task, like cleaning the toilet
If she is on her way out, she will feign outrage.
Ask her to leave.
If, otoh, she wants you, she will complain but will do it.
In this case, later on, months or even years later, she will bring up the topic of what you made her do solipsistically, completely forgetting what she did, focusing on your tyranny that day.
When she does this, tell her to go clean the toilet, indifferently.
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Thats tight game.
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Yup, as if.
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My friends and I had a saying in college, “Pimp or be pimped.” Applies well for women, driving, sports, finance, everything.
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so the ex sister waits for me to be broke then stays over
another putty has fallen in love with me yay the warmth radiating off of it was nice I roasted some marshmallows
I would say number 5 would be the
one eye on titty other eye on titty omg its so close game rofl
or when she says she gonna be your wife just say as she leaving that
if you were my wife bitch you would have to have this back in 5 minutes of course while grabbing the pussy
then laugh
slow hands song is right on
two days ago I did the pressure point on skull moves and like lifting bones under eyes under top of eye pulling skull the different push points temples base of neck she told me nobody ever did that before to her or whatnot
yea prob not us don’t do to much massage as they should its good for ya
I told her she should prob stay away from me so I don’t have another suicide at some point and that she is not allowed to try to kill me she laughed but yea shit looking at my track record these type of things happen
told her no jumping off the bed with a butcher knife in fact I said I was gonna butcher knife In the back yard
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bury the butcher knife
maybe that is the problem these bitches got me scared of my own abilities
I got another ho acting like a fucking giggling pile of something which shouldn’t even be possible
it feels fresh even though for both of us that shouldn’t be possible
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Why don’t you do a video course on Game? I want bitches demanding shlong!,😉
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yea all night pretty much pumping her ass in the air lol
what the fuck god dam chemicals
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just have em suck your dick two years before tell em they suck at it and gtfo then 2 years later after thinking about you every day of their lives cause you totally ignored them sexually they are begging for you to give it to them
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when she said nobody ever did that I told her she knows my secret to getting woman now
that and twirling their hair for freaking hours till they need it like an addict he he he
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I was like who would of thought two years ago we would be doing this
wtf lolzolzolz
i’m like I would of bet all future money we wouldn’t be here right now
but then i’d of lost
how the fuck did this happen
to giggles he he he
live laugh love and use the chemicals to our benefit
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Geez GSG, I hope the ex-sister used to be a nun……
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of course lolzzz
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How are the chemicals treating you?
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When they try things like that, I tell them “I’m not as emotional as you.”
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yeah the next part might come across as butt hurt. Besides that’s why I like the third string option………. I don’t have to stop tap’n her………… I can just pull away all my resources and commitment. It doesn’t matter to women if you stop bang’n them, that’s the beauty of the cock carousel for them. Women are the gate keepers of sex, Men are the gate keepers of commitment. Just because you’re hav’n fun with her doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with others. I mean everyone has a favorite song, doesn’t mean it wouldn’t get really old after a few hundred day. AWALT …… FTW. Just remember Damone to keep those toes tappin’.
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How about FACILITATE the attempt? Call her bluff, and say i.e., “Hey what can I do to help you gain ‘other Chad’s’ affections?” You have to be 100% sincere, not sarcastic. My experience they will be infuriated for a time, but never play that game again.
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yep, agree and amplify can work pretty well too. have to be careful your tone is right so you’re coming off as indifferent and as if it’d be no skin off your nose if she left for another man. play it wrong and you’ll come across as butthurt
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this is analogous to friendzoning her, except a bit more overt. and because it’s overt it requires overt effort that overtly betrays your overt investment in the outcome.
a better angle is to FZ her without telling her, without mentioning Chad #2. like a pro you just smoothly transition into the next phase. you’ve got a huge garden to tend, and this one is just not ready to bloom. you move on and instinctively shift your attention where it’s more fruitful. not cold. not hot. indifferent. pokerfaced.
then set your watch. if the interest was mutual and you suddenly dropped the connection and pulled way back when she acted cunty, then it’s almost guaranteed she’ll eventually come sniffing around with a noticeable change of behavior. it might take a month or two, but chances are she’ll come back with a meek “hiii”, leave a note on your door, or do something nice for you.
….and when she does you’re cool as a high altitude cruise missile about it. not in a rush to respond. you stay on target. she’s checking in to see if you’re still hooked, except now she’s behaving properly. a little reward of acknowledgement, then wait again. you want to encourage a pattern of her doing nice things for you, but you have to encourage her slowly so she doesn’t spook. and you can’t show more than a sliver of occasional reward, either, or she’ll hit the hypergamous eject button and be out of there before you’ve even finished unzipping your zipper.
slowww and steady.
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one of the consequences of birth control and social media is that it places women in the cockpit of the courtship process while simultaneously accelerating it to Mach 6 million.
she’s RUSHING to get picked up on. RUSHING to next as many of the surplus betas as possible. RUSHING to signal availability to the rare alpha. RUSHING to show she can compete sexually with other girls for a shot in his harem. RUSHING to become “empowered”, because that’s what the herd is doing. rush rush rush.
one of our jobs as men in this era of sublime darkness is to slowww things down for her. just be steady. hold to your standards. allow her to fumble and spin and figure out how things work in your world. don’t rush to meet her on her insanely unstable and artificial energy state. she has no idea what she’s doing there and she’s looking to you for a way out.
be the guy who takes his time and shows amused mastery while she makes every mistake in the book, (especially the inevitable mistake of overstepping because she OVER-values herself.)
your steady, masculine beacon will prevent her from foundering on the Frankfurt Shoal of Worthless Female Empowerment and guide her into the safe harbor of feminine submission.
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Good posts, pj…
I’d add the cautionary proviso to
then set your watch. if the interest was mutual and you suddenly dropped the connection and pulled way back when she acted cunty, then it’s almost guaranteed she’ll eventually come sniffing around with a noticeable change of behavior. it might take a month or two, but chances are she’ll come back with a meek “hiii”, leave a note on your door, or do something nice for you.
that she’s already added one or more to her carousel ride by this time, and found it wanting or got nexted… so the wise man has to keep this in mind.
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“that she’s already added one or more to her carousel ride by this time, and found it wanting or got nexted… so the wise man has to keep this in mind.”
that’s a good consideration, Greg. to pounce or not to pounce. the eternal question.
stalking longer before pouncing means negotiating harder for your own terms, at the risk of losing the meal to a more aggressive suitor. while pouncing too soon means potentially landing a fresher quarry, but with a higher risk of ending up with nothing at all.
the antidote here, I believe, is: two in the hopper. if he guy is insistent on settling for nothing but the best, then a girl blindly stumbling down the road of seemingly endless choice does so at her own expense.
and if she turns out to be one of the smarter ones then maybe she won’t need to hit bottom before recognizing a good thing is about to slip away.
it’s a tough call. personally I think men have time on their side and being patient can only help them, as long as he has real options and isn’t just making excuses. one of the trickier sex’s oldest high pressure sales tricks is getting a guy to think there’s a ONE DAY FIRE SALE-MUST ACT NOW!!! for her affection. I’d rather pay full price and get exactly what I want.
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https://www.wsj.com/articles/amazons-cashierless-go-convenience-store-set-to-open-1516546801
the end of life as we know it
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The idea might not last long. Just wait till a bunch of “vibrants” go in and trash the place. They already do that , even with humans present.
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so maybe someone smart enough to realize we do need vibrants he he he
to stop the terminator from really happening
its crazy how close we are to that
I bet imagining a terminator scenario would of thought the world would be acting different but humanity is like that I guess we know we on a precipice overlooking the end and yet people just keep on living and filing sexual harassment type shit
wait till the chicks have to file vs robots and get laughed at what happens then
robots wont even need a ficus rofl rofl he he he
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it is fucking literally insane the times we are fucking living in
anyone who’s brain doesn’t almost explode at the thought of where we are is retarded
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basically all the retail closing down I mean wtf man how fast has the world been changing and it is speeding up
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Close up of the toilet paper brand. Really, applicable to more in this situation than cleanin’ yo ass….
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Aldi supermarkets are already like that — everything packaged and priced, self-checkout, stocking done by suppliers, the whole concept. They do have security guards.
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[…] Source: Heartiste […]
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Silly Canadians, the cold must have frozen their brains.
Added bonus: Check out the clock tower photo. Notice anything ((( familiar ))) ?
” Africa Surpasses Europe As Canada’s Second Largest Source Of Immigrants ”
http://investmentwatchblog.com/africa-surpasses-europe-as-canadas-second-largest-source-of-immigrants/
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@CH the lefts vision for the US
https://dailystormer.red/south-africa-cape-town-to-become-first-major-city-in-the-world-to-run-out-of-water/
tl;dr
alt-right: Heritage America
alt-left: Shi+hole America
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I knocked up a girl
I don’t know what the fuck to do, ch
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>Every girl has her moments when she wants to incite an angry possessive passion from her lover.
Is this synonymous with him acting butthurt?
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When in doubt tease. I LOVE telling a woman i open aaaif she keeps smiling at me she’s gonna end up pregnant. Never had it fail. It’s sexual validation without supplication or being a kiss ass.
Guys need to learn to flirt sexually without coming off as a creep, and that takes a looong time and massive amounts of outcome independence to pull it off.
And professional women (MBA, lawyer, professor, exec) are usually the easiest to open bc they love when they don’t have to take charge and can leave the relationship crap to you. you CANNOT show a lick of fear and must exude lion like confidence.
Trust been doing this for a loooooooong time.
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“if she keeps smiling at me she’s gonna end up pregnant”
Okay, that one gets the official Captain Obvious Seal of Approval.
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i agree with the captain. that’s a great line
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Stolen.
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Includes such classics as:
“Dude, You’re a Fag!” by C.J. Pascoe
“Masculinity as Homophobia” by Michael Kimmel
“Advertising and the Construction of Violent White Masculinity” by Jackson Katz
“Dude Sex: Dudes Who Have Sex with Dudes” by Jane Ward
“Sodomy in the New World” by Jonathan Goldberg
Teaching Men’s Anal Pleasure” by Susan Stiritz.
” Ohio State course reprimands white heterosexual masculinity ”
https://www.thecollegefix.com/post/40991/
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If she’s flirting with another guy, it’s a symptom of another problem: she’s not scared to lose you. That’s the problem and it must be dealt with, preferably by icing her for a while or dread game. You’ve got some work to do on the back end until she’s where she needs to be: scared to death of losing you.
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without question
girls will make up all kinds of excuses for why they are keeping orbiters around or chatting up other men. they will put all the blame on you, say you’re not giving them enough attention, they’re feeling insecure, etc.
but mentally healthy women who want to stay in the relationship because they truly love you and see your value do not do that. they will shut attention from other men down immediately.
if they are feeling insecure about your interest in them, need more attention, etc, they will be working their ass off trying to earn your attention instead of looking for it elsewhere
if a woman in a relationship is seeking out or indulging attention from other men, it’s because her ego is bigger than her love and loyalty to you. she is not worried about losing you because in her eyes, she’s the catch and you need her more than she needs you. that is the worst situation a man can find himself in.
in most cases there’s no recovery if she’s doing that kind of shiz or has a history of doing it but dread game is your best and only chance if you want to keep trying to make a go of it.
of course there are some girls (high notch count girls) who are always going to be extra needy when it comes to external validation and even if you’re treating her well, she’ll still always be looking elsewhere for attention. you’ll will never be enough for black holes like that. they should be avoided at all costs.
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speaking from experience by the way
i had a girl who was doing all the shiz i mentioned. wasn’t technically cheating…yet. but still covertly messaging guys on fagbook, getting chummy with male coworkers, etc.
she blamed me because i travel for work, have hobbies, etc and she says i wasn’t spending enough time with her and making her feel wanted and special enough
i bought into that and did all i could to show her i was committed. got engaged even. spent a year giving her more attention than i ever had because that’s what she said she needed from me.
all seemed peachy at first. relationship seemed much improved and i thought she was in for the long haul. she still ended up cheating a year later.
not sure if dread game would have worked with that sloot but it sure as hell would have given me a better fighting chance than i had without it
interestingly enough, i still travel the same amount as always, have hobbies, spend time with friends, etc and the girl i’m with now doesn’t complain a bit or pull constant shit tests like the other girls. major upgrade.
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In many cases, women will get into relationships with a backup while they test and attempt to forge a connection with another man they’re more interested in. AKA “monkey-branching”. This is extremely common.
What I suspect happened in your case was she had interest in another dude, he crashed and burned with her, she stayed with you for another year, then she found a third dude who didn’t crash and burn.
In fact, women aren’t either single or in a relationship. They’re either single (keeping all options open), in a relationship with a backup (but keeping options open for a specific dude they want more but is making her work for him), or in a relationship with the man they want (in which case they’re closed off to other men and plan on m4rrying him).
I suspect that dread game might have moved you from “backup” to “man she wants”. Maybe. But in the vast majority of cases, the backup makes absolutely no effort to keep her in line. In fact, they usually appear to react by being more beta, attentive, and closed off to other women.
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Because I’m very reserved and slow to show affection, I’m always in the role of the “other guy”.
One thing I’ve noticed is that if I end up failing with the girl in question, she’ll try to pawn me off on her less-attractive friends. Hence I suspect the common situation where a breakup happens because the man is getting with a girl’s friends: that’s because they already broke up and her friends picked him up.
OTOH, if her friends remain polite but aloof — they behave as if they like me, but rebuff any attempt to forge a connection — she still wants me. There’s also a third situation where her friends turn totally cold, which has happened when I don’t appear interested in her at all.
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you summarized my situation exactly vfm
i did exactly what you said. i tried being the attentive good guy because i felt guilty for the relationship having problems. blamed myself for everything.
what i lost sight of was the fact that she was going outside the relationship to get attention from other dudes and that meant it wasn’t even about her wanting more attention from me.
it was about her not having loyalty to me or actually wanting to make it work. she was scoping out replacements for god’s sake. for a long ass time too. and she kept doing it until she finally found the guy she thought was worth leaving me for.
if she had actually been committed to me and the relationship and was as hurt as she says she was about my so called lack of attention towards her, she would have been doing whatever she could to please me and make me want to spend time with her and give her attention. but that was not happening at all. she was just as naggy bitchy and demanding as always. everything was always about what she needed. what she deserved. never was it about what i needed and wanted.
your rundown of girls in relationships is excellent too. unbeknownst to me, i had the second scenario with her. wasted a lot of time with that woman and learned some hard lessons.
lucky enough to have come out of the darkness though. i have the third scenario in my current relationship
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There are still good ones out there to be found. DON’T SETTLE for any girl for reasons.
They’re like guns. Everyone gets a .22 when they’re 10 years old. Doesn’t mean that should be your main forever.
Use it well, look after it, put many, er, rounds through it, and enjoy the er, shoot. You’ll gain confidence and as your experience improves, you can upgrade to a better, more desirable one. And it will feel natural.
Works for guns too, by the way…
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Don’t take da bait…
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WTF ?? Wrap your Hijab around this one.
” L’Oreal Paris Hires Hijab Wearing Model in Hair Ad for the First Time ”
https://sputniknews.com/society/201801191060897385-loreal-hires-hijab-model-hair-ad/
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Truly clown world.
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You’re the guy CH banned for constantly posting OT demoralizing shit all the time, ain’t ya? The new guise won’t last long. smh…
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Jeremiah 13:23, amirite?
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Whats demoralizing is your lack of solutions to our collective problems. Now lets all go back to talking about passing women’s “shit tests” and so on, that should solve our troubles.
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Solution? Wha, like storming the offices of L’Oreal and demanding they only offer blonde hair dye?
You fucking child… you company man…
You fairy.
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“Whats demoralizing is your lack of solutions to our collective problems.”
Look who has learned absolutely nothing; go on – keep it up. You’ll just get banned again.
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So you’re Mieszko I or however it was spelled?
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My advice to to a younger me would be.
* Be higher value and maintain it.
* Always have other options and an exit strategy.
* Do not trust her any more than you would trust a (seemingly) well behaved teenager.
*Always be mindful that she also has her agenda and interests at heart.
How well these align with yours is indicative of the future prospects for the relationship.
*If she loses respect for you or stops respecting you all together; you are DONE and it is very hard to claw it back.
*Once you have broken up with her, delete all means of contacting her.
It’s over. Walk away and do not look back. Throw out everything she gave you. (chances are what she gave you will nealy always be of lower value than what you gave her anyway.)
*Never ever give her 100% of yourself. She does not deserve it and the fastest way to turn a Unicorn into a petulant self entitled child is to give her all of yourself and everything that she wants.
*It’s healthy for a small part of you to hate her.
*Pay close attention to the dynamics of her family.
*Like any investment; her current performance is not indicative or a guarantee of potential future returns.
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Against my better judgement i have been trying to be indifferent to the fact my gf’s sister has moved her attention away from me to a new guy. But I have been slipping into the ‘butthurt’ role a bit. As there isn’t anyway I can outwardly affect the situation.
Now I hear you asking – “What the fuk are you doing lusting after the sister?” Well it wasn’t my intention, but she is younger, goes to the gym (used to be my gym partner) lives with us and is a great girl in the head. So while my relationship is burning to the ground I am struggling to deal with the loss of her attention and affection.
We flirted in a bratty little sister way, with play fighting, teasing and such – but I have feelings for her and she dropped all our time for a tinder match and spend all her time with him. I thought I had control of the whole situation but I am the one left feeling used. Did she use me for validation and attention?
What gives? Anyone care to give an insight?
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OT:
While Bill Gates’ daughter is hooking up with some Muslim, Steve Jobs’ daughter has made a better choice, and is several levels hotter as well:
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Shes’s not totally white by the way. You should really study Job’s family background. Let me give you a start:
Steve Jobs’s biological parents were Abdulfattah Jandali and Joanne ((( Schieble. )))
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Of course Jobs was at least part (((YKW)))…
… why do you think he was touted as such a genius, meriting feature-length movies and such, while nobody today knows who the fuck Wozniak is?
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Syrians are about as white as Greeks. It’s the Muslim part that’s the problem.
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she aight
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Fuck they require so much work and attention I’m at the point where I would rather fuck whores and sugar babies
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I don’t think this is on the list of the 109 expulsions
Jeez..everyone hates them
http://www.bbc.com/news/business-42661642
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when the anti-‘zionist’ thing started in the soviet union was like a spell that returned against the sorcerer
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My dad always taught me growing up that you should never walk into any kind of negotiation unless you’re comfortable walking away from the table.
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How about this?
http://lukeford.net/blog/?p=119991
Trump and Nikki Haley
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What about what? Some kike quoting another kike on tabloid speculation… self-admitted speculation at that?
(((shakin’ mah haid)))
Seth Abramson
At this point it’s mere speculation, but Michael Wolff has said that a paragraph toward the back of FIRE AND FURY reveals who Trump’s current mistress is (an affair that opens the president up to blackmail) and many online are insisting that THIS is the paragraph Wolff refers to:
Giving legs to this sort of folderol is WHY WE LOSE! 😡
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Nice use of folderol, Sir Greg. 😉
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More’s the pity having to use such words ’round chere. 😉
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NEVER trust a kike..
Fuck I even liked his silly movies, I think.
Another one for the list.
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Someone should ask Meathaid if he recommends the same for Israel, since diversity is such a boon, amirite?
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Would he and his ilk be just as fine with, say, the whitening of South Africa?
Didn’t think so.
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You said it, Greg.
Also why does Israel have such a massive super wall (*that we paid for) and these thin see-through prototypes I’m seeing for Trump’s someday wall look like a pregnant bean bag could get past?
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Let’s GO, tweeters… ask Meathaid if he recommends the same for Israel.
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Democrats… feh!
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A sh*t hole paradise.
” ‘Haiti Is Truly A Beautiful Country’: Conan Visits Fancy Haitian Resort to Prove Trump Wrong ”
http://www.informationliberation.com/?id=57861
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So he, his ilk and the (((MSM))) won’t have any issue with us sending back any Haitians already in this country, and denying further entry to any others who may wish to leave their (ahem) paradise for rayciss, oppressive ‘Murrica, amirite?
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Guess he missed Cite Soleil and its specialty of freshly-baked dirt cakes.
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Also, it would appear that it’s not in fact Canada that’s the worst Sweden of the Americas… it’s Chile:
https://www.wsj.com/articles/as-u-s-slows-immigration-one-latin-american-nation-embraces-it-1516539600
http://www.haitilibre.com/en/news-23276-haiti-flash-nearly-105-000-haitians-arrived-in-chile-in-2017.html
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south america is way more corrupt than europe. i’m pretty sure that the chileans itself are completely opposed to this invasion. it’s not like europe where people do VOTE for this shit.
in my country, in the same continent, people are dumber though. they actually agree with trump’s statement that haiti is, indeed, a sh!thole, but they dont see problem with bringing such people. they dont understand that you bringing haitians, you turn your neighborhood/city/state/country into haiti
ps: maybe the difference between corrupt and brainwashed are very thin
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I have the impression that Chileans are indeed like Swedes, with their being mainly leftist due to anti-Pinochet brainwashing.
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vfm#7634,
the political system in south american countries are even more dominated by certain ((( forces ))) than europe. so it’s completely possible that the government mostly do things that the people itself despise.
there wouldnt be many chileans holding signs saying “haitians welcome!” and the few those that’ll do, they’ll be a laughing stock, not the majority… unlike sweden
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This is really one of the toughest issues in long-term relationships with women. You could post about this over and over and it would never get old.
Calling out your girl for flirting is not a great move, but it’s likely to happen at some point. Yes, acting aloof and doing some flirting on your own is probably the best counteroffensive — and I have done this myself — but sooner or later you are going to get mad enough to bring it up.
On a few occasions I have confronted my girl about shit like this, always a day or so later. It never goes well. But the alternative was to quietly stew and get angrier and angrier. Getting it off my chest of was required to preserve my sanity.
The takeaway is a mixed bag: On one hand, I take it as a reminder that my game may have been sliding (get some new clothes, stay fit, stay socially active without her etc.). On the other hand, you may need to confront your woman sometimes to let her know you’re fucking pissed.
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