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Revisiting The 3 Second Rule

Mystery’s 3 Second Rule is a standard Game tactic, and I don’t intend to overturn it with this post. Mystery had a good reason to advise men to follow the 3 Second Rule in the field: it helps a man overcome his fear of approaching women. Its singular benefit is its physicality: adhering to the rule forces a man to move toward the girl he wants to talk to, and to actually speak to her, which when executed in a short time frame has the knock-on effect of jolting a man “out of his head”. It’s that interstitial head space — that ego pacifying sanitarium of doubt and rationalization — where many a beta male are tripped up while taking their first steps on the path to romance.

So keep following the 3 second rule even as I go on to tell you it’s not necessary; if your choice is between the 3 second rule and doing nothing as the girl of your creams slips out of your life, then the choice is obvious.

In practice, I’ve found that a man really has up to a couple of minutes between eyeing a cute girl (or a cute girl eyeing him) and approaching her, without loss of face or ding of his SMV. In fact, it can improve a man’s pickup success rate to wait a little before approaching, as long as there was mutual eye contact. (There’s no point to waiting to approach a girl if she hasn’t even noticed you in the room. You’ll have to make yourself noticeable.)

The exception to the 3 second rule works within this context: You and the girl have a brief introductory volley of eyeplay from across the vast expanse of the NPI meeting room you both have crashed. Instead of immediately chomping on her eye-bait and approaching before the gleam has left either of your eyes, you wait a beat. During this interregnum to love, look at your phone or talk to someone else. Look distracted. This has the effect of raising your SMV (sexual market value — the all-important coin of the mate choice realm) relative to her SMV, and therefore rubbing her hypergamy hamster along the fur grain.

She’ll wonder, very subconsciously within the margins of her inner monologue, why you aren’t coming up to her after she tossed you her splooge of eye love, and if she hasn’t the power to tear your attention away from some other object or person of interest. She won’t have to wonder long, because you’ll make your move shortly after she’s moved to self-doubt, but you’ll have permitted just enough of a pregnant pause to linger in the space between you two for a crucial pang of morose self-assessment to squall through her ginebrain.

This girlpang is the stuff of flowering muff. A girl experiencing a hot flash of self-doubt, quick and searing and instantly relieved with your approach, will be MUCH more inviting of your charms.

This is the way seduction works; not with a bang but a simmer. If a girl is a violin, and your SMV is the bow, you aren’t hitting all her strings at once unless you’re famous and/or famously preselected by other hot women. To properly play her, you tap her strings, lightly and individually at first, each note ringing a declaration of your mate value, the occasional minor key note radiating a shivering undercurrent of her inadequacy in your presence, until all the notes converge on a covfefe crescendo.

Male SMV is like that….tiny plucked musical notes that take a woman’s emotions on a ride of pleasure, through grandiose highs and anxious lows, until vertigo has stripped her of her defenses and she wobbles into your steadying arms.

134 Responses to “Revisiting The 3 Second Rule”

  1. Padre35 says:

    Mystery was also in a different time, now Lameakazie lesser men literally bombard women at the slightest provocation. In the days of the 3 second rule, that was needed, now not so much.

    To me, that goes under “guys who get it”

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    • Sentient says:

      3 second rule was to overcome Approach Anxiety. Once you have demonsrated you’ve overcome this you can get more strategic.

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      • Captain Obvious says:

        The best way to get over Approach Anxiety is 1) Practice, and 2) ZFG.

        Of course, practicing helps you achieve ZFG, and ZFG allows you to keep practicing.

        Kinduva symbiotic relationship there.

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      • Vagina dominator says:

        @ Sentient

        O/T re that video you posted in “The Leftoid Id” with the white woman on the tram. Did you see what happens at 1:11 and at 1:45?

        https://www.youtubedotcom/watch?v=TSxz-suo2V8

        1:11 – a coal black devil stands up with the absolute intention of beating the woman.

        1:45 – cute young blondie crosses the carriage to give the triggered darkie a hug

        Chilling. Please, Fates, bring on the destruction soon. Destroy it all, to the last angel and demon. It is rotten to the core.

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      • Ripp says:

        Sentient nailed it.

        Also the 3 second rule applies well to high traffic areas, night game, day concerts etc. In more low energy environments it’s not necessarily always the best.

        Another great tactic from the archives is that when approaching (and using the 3 sec rule) and the set doesn’t go well, etc…approach again, right away, as soon as possible.

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      • Benson says:

        It works. I met my fiance because I approached her before I could talk myself out of it.

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      • Sentient says:

        Benson!

        is this hot tub girl?!

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      • Benson says:

        Benson!

        is this hot tub girl?!

        Sure is. The Chateau changes lives.

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    • Captain Obvious says:

      “Mystery was also in a different time”

      No kidding, man. The chicks have become so dark in 2017 that if your repertoire doesn’t escalate aggressively to hair-pulling & pu$$y-slapping & choke-phucking, then the Hamster is gonna quickly render a verdict of “Hopelessly Beta. Next.”

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      • wolfie65 says:

        I agree with the Captain.
        The late 20teens are a far cry from the early 00s.
        And if Mystery would show up at any of the clubs in my area, they would either not let him in for v1ol@ting one of their (arbitrary) ‘dress codes’ or he would simply get laughed at, beat up, possibly stabbed if he stumbles into a Hispanic joint by mistake.
        He’ll be ok at the ghey bars.
        If you see a girl you like, follow the no-second rule and go get’er im-f_ck1ng-mediately, because there are several schools of other sharks circling the same tuna.
        Escalate from the start, there is NO TIME for witty banter.
        Not anymore, that’s 80s stuff.

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      • Jaded Jurist says:

        Let’s say it’s so. The question that follows is: who are these men that are satisfying such depraved desires? Are rabbitfağğots actually rising to the challenge? If so, what must we more masculine men do to dissuade such fvckery? It’s a real question.

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    • “Mystery was also in a different time”

      Game and seduction never change. Some of the stylistic peculiarities of Mystery are unfit for MOST men, but when he was on about theory… timeless.

      Across time/space… the “dance” is, and will always will be, the same, the same, the same.

      This is based in biology… and the rash of Tinder can’t change biology.

      If you properly understand game… those skills will serve your indefinitely.

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      • Captain Obvious says:

        ‘the “dance” is, and will always will be, the same, the same, the same.’

        The same strategies, maybe, but not necessarily the same tactics.

        The Hamster’s sense of “Alpha” is NON-CONSTANT. The worse a chick has been abused, the greater any subsequent abuse will need to be in order to give The Hamster a new adrenaline rush.

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      • Captain Obvious says:

        Somebody was saying that the Corollary is that each time The Hamster gets pumped and dumped by a more brutal Cad [V@g giving way to Ana1 giving way to Spanking giving way to Hair-Pulling giving way to Face-Slapping giving way to Pu$$y-Slapping giving way to Choke-Phucking etc etc etc], her innate Histrionic Personality Disorder requires that she get a new tattoo or piece of face metal to announce to the world how much more The Darkness has now grown in her heart [and how much worse she’ll need to be brutalized by the next Cad in her life].

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      • Captain Obvious says:

        Of course, all of The Hamster’s obsession with pain & humiliation & degradation & carnal ecstasy could be satiated almost immediately if only she were to start pushing out natural l!ve births [no epidural, no caesarean].

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      • Jaded Jurist says:

        Again, Cappy, the Book. Publish it.

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  2. Xwarper says:

    “This is the way seduction works; not with a bang but a simmer. If a girl is a violin, and your SMV is the bow, you aren’t hitting all her strings at once unless you’re famous and/or famously preselected by other hot women. To properly play her, you tap her strings, lightly and individually at first, each note ringing a declaration of your mate value, the occasional minor key note radiating a shivering undercurrent of her inadequacy in your presence, until all the notes converge on a covfefe crescendo.”

    Incredibly beautifully written, though a tad dense to follow along with.

    And the symphony, tuning up in front of the audience, consists of all your game techniques and conversational instruments, from the wind instruments of teasing to the metallic brassy ones of arrogance; while the audience — led their by rumors of prior audiences, all the girls you’ve bed — swoons and waits for the performance to begin. Bed awaits.

    — xwarper.wordpress.com

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  3. […] Revisiting The 3 Second Rule […]

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  4. Xwarper says:

    I have an ambition to co-write a novel-cum-(heh)-player’s-handbook with Heartiste, to be called Megaalpha. It would star a cold-eyed seducer named Devin who joins a drug gang in Toronto and a red-headed dealer named Yemmer who gets kidnapped and nearly killed, and all the ass they slay along the way. It seems a good way to combine a natural prose stylist (me) with a born theorizer (Heartiste).

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  5. A memory of the torrential rain in NYC last Saturday:

    Blonde licked her ice cream
    raindrops ran down her thigh gap
    I should have approached

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    • Vagina dominator says:

      Certainly got your sexually charged imagery going on there.

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    • Tarl Cabot says:

      Barefoot girl,
      sitting on the hood of a Dodge
      drinking warm beer in the soft summer rain

      Not haiku, and I stole it from Springsteen (before he was cucked), but a pleasant image, nonetheless.

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      • It seems that celebrities either die a hero or live long enough to become a cuck.

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      • Soft French cream says:

        Once you’ve opened enough sets, with or without the three second rule, and broken all this stuff down to the core, there’s little left. I’d rather watch barefoot girl sit on the hood nowadays and fantasize about what might have been then approach and have her ruin it by opening her mouth.

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      • Greg Eliot says:

        It seems that celebrities either die a hero or live long enough to become a cuck.

        Your turn of phrase reminded me of a poem we had to read in grade school, the pertinent stanza being:

        Now you will not swell the rout
        Of lads that wore their honours out,
        Runners whom renown outran
        And the name died before the man.

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      • PA says:

        I did a paper on that poem in high school AP English.

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      • Greg Eliot says:

        I see our PA is an educated man… now I know I hate him.

        kekekekekekek

        /Tombstone rape!

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      • Jaded Jurist says:

        If my school had offered AP English… it would have been an American public school, where proper grammar was an anomaly.

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    • Carlos Danger says:

      An umbrella would have been a good prop

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  6. Anonymous says:

    Pua is just another dumb scam and the 3 second rule is just another dumb sales trick.

    Please go back to talking about the things that matter.

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  7. I’ll also 2nd the utility of the 3sec rule. More often that not… it’s a gold standard. Every sec that goes by, more “chaos” could disrupt the opportunity… including, but not exclusively, you’re “internal” chaos.

    == No one likes a hesitant man.

    With that said… there’s another good reason wait a beat: You gather more information.

    If you’re in a social situation where you can watch her for a minute, you can learn more about her or the environment that can strengthen your opening move.

    Sometimes a minute/two more of intel can give you a lot more to work with.

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    • Ripp says:

      Agreed.

      “With that said… there’s another good reason wait a beat: You gather more information.”

      As one becomes more advanced and situational aware, holding back a few moments works to your advantage. Typically if you see a high SMV alone, she is waiting for someone. Almost always. Date, BF, hubby, friends..etc.

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      • Captain Obvious says:

        There’s also the allure of playing hard-to-get. Being a cunt-tease.

        Luring her into chasing you is the very Apex of Game.

        The problem nowadays is these iPhag-addicted chicks have such short attention spans that it’s not clear how long you can maintain the allure before a new “Look! Squirrel!” spectacle causes her to forget that she ever even lusted after you.

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    • Jaded Jurist says:

      DOG.com, I’ve been waiting for you to post.

      Please remove the “.com” from your username. If others find your posted content meritorious, they’ll eventually find your blog.

      If not, you’re nothing more than a leech, or at best a remora, trying to piggyback off of CH’s decade plus of hard work gathering an army of shítlords who come here for his insights, not yours.

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      • >> DOG.com, I’ve been waiting for you to post.

        Ouu… I like when you’re thinking of me. What are you wearing??

        >> Please remove the “.com” from your username. If others find your posted content meritorious, they’ll eventually find your blog.

        No thanks.

        >> If not, you’re nothing more than a leech, or at best a remora, trying to piggyback off of CH’s decade plus of hard work gathering an army of shítlords who come here for his insights, not yours.

        I don’t recall trying to get people to check out my blog. I’m here to discuss ideas, these ideas, I’m on topic, and I make contributions to THIS conversation all the time.

        How ’bout you?

        Thanks for your editorial, sweetheart. Carry on.

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      • Jaded Jurist says:

        Lol you responded at face value. Some “game” you’ve got there.

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      • My bad… I mistook you for a man.

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  8. Jaded Jurist says:

    “Mystery’s 3 Second Rule is a standard Game tactic, and I don’t intend to overturn it with this post.”

    You had me at hello.

    Before I read the rest of your post, please allow me to say that you, Monsieur Heartiste, are demonstrably among the fairest-minded, least self-interested TruePosters on the Interwebs.

    Future historians will laud you, Anonymous Conservative, and the like as the men who overturned the current narrative, all the while seeking to stay out of the spotlight. The spotlight will still rest upon you, and deservedly so.

    May your humility become your

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  9. Peter Quill says:

    I don’t know if this has brought up yet, but J3wToob has posted a disgusting, vile pr0paganda vid about refug33s.

    More than 250k dislikes vs. 70k likes at this point, plus the comments section is woke a.f, with (( )) used frequently (among other stuff).

    Sorry for the spelling, trying to escape moderation.

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  10. https://www.algemeiner.com/2014/06/20/algemeiner-summer-benefit-2014-album-4-%E2%80%93-red-carpet-photos/

    Spot the psychopaths and gammas at this jewish charity event (all jewish charity involves political donations to anti-white/pro Zion causes).

    The plus about all this is that jewish women are probably the least loyal. Although I would be shocked if you saw 1/10 the amount of black men in their media in Israel that you see in the anglo fiefdoms of theirs.

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    • The Philosopher says:

      Magic negro brainwashing for thee, but not for me (goyim!)

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    • wolfie65 says:

      It occurs to me that most Asian societies are unusually rich in Gammas and Omegas.

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      • The Philosopher says:

        I’ve hear people say indians are gammas and east asians are omegas/aspies.

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      • Lichthof says:

        Worked with a three Asians in the US..decent dudes but they have miserable lives.
        They want but can’t get attractive white women who find them repulsive.
        I actually saw this anger in the work place …white women getting frustrated with them and telling them to grow some balls.
        Asian dudes have very few white guy friends and they can’t handle the pace of life here or any aggression.
        Their Asian women seem to abandon them. All 3 of them had meltdowns in their late 30s.
        That guy Wu who does the happier abroad website is typical.
        Another reason for no immigration.
        Most immigrants are miserable and home sick.

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      • wolfie65 says:

        The only place I’ve ever seen a noticeable number of White girls with (East) Asian dudes was at California universities.
        “Bu…bu…butwuddaboud BRUCE LEE………”

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    • Major7 says:

      Man, what an ugly bunch.

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  11. Peter Quill says:

    You can find the vid and read the glorious redpilled comments under the #MoreThanARefugee tag.

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  12. Yahoo says:

    Uber founder forced out.

    One again Jew feminism and the (((investors))) have destroyed a white man and stolen a company and invention created by a white nan.

    Hire a woman, hire a problem.

    How much you wanna bet the next CEO is a woman.

    Yahoo.

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  13. CalvinDecline says:

    Off-topic:

    “Older father have geekier sons. The mother’s age had no impact and daughters seemed to be immune.”

    http://www.bbc.com/news/health-40340540#

    Seems like pseudo science, but a somewhat interesting read.

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    • wolfie65 says:

      The WaY Nature Intended is for people to meet, fall in lust and have k1ds – biologically with one another – between their mid-teens to early 30s.
      Anything outside of that is chancy.
      Some may have no choice but to chance it.
      Those who do so deliberately are brainpoisoned or simply crazy.

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      • Captain Obvious says:

        W65, read the study. The BBC is using “geeky” to mean smart as he11 and what you would call “Sigma”.

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      • tomjones says:

        Half-true. Nature also Intended older resource-rich men to attract young hotties. So a young man falls in lust and has k1ds and then he does it again in his 40s (maybe his 50s, even his 60s) with pretty little 19 year old.
        Cato the Censor is a good example. Hannibal. Genghis Khan. And every strategos (general) in history.

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    • Greg Eliot says:

      I always heard that children tend to be smarter when their father is over 30 at the time of conception.

      I always thought it was just another German superstition on the part of dear ol’ grandma. She knew all the old wives’ tale Sprichwörter. 😉

      Anecdotally, it seems to bear out on both sides of my family.

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      • Jaded Jurist says:

        First I’ve heard of this. However, I can bear witness to the validity of this argument. Intelligent AF, but never had a dad who wanted to play Catch.

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  14. martin says:

    a lot of truth in this post. I have read multiple independent sources suggest that a good way to get over fear is to physically force yourself to do something.

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    • Vagina dominator says:

      We talk about “fight or flight”, but as mentioned in the Peterson/Joe Rogan interview, the outcomes of fear are actually Fight/Flight/Freeze.

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  15. JRH says:

    What’s worked for me in the past is simply telling a target to stick around as we need to talk. It builds up anxiety in her while you work the room a bit. Occasionally they will end up chasing you down after that. Sometimes it goes absolutely no where, but it’s minimal effort to gauge interest.

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  16. The Philosopher says:

    Queen of England dressed in an EU flag for her speech. Why not wear the Star of David? Its pretty obvious the gentile elites all want open borders (for white countries only) no matter how unpopular and who loses and election and who dies. Because they are all bribed and blackmailed by our high IQ psychopath ‘loyal friends’ and ‘deepest allies’. Guys like McCain and Ryan can’t do anything. Waaay to much dirt on them from operations like Epstein’s love island with the cameras everywhere.

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    • The Philosopher says:

      In a weird way I feel sorry for trapped guys like that. But not McCain. Ryan is just a homo with flaccid feelings of noble cause. But McCain sold out in Vietnam doing radio broadcasts for the Vietnamese. He was never ‘tortured’. No wonder they picked him to run for president. At least obama had the balls to spite Israel at the UN and make the media throw a wobbler at ‘an act of divisiveness’. The vote in the UN was 179-1. The ‘1’ was israel.

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  17. Corvo says:

    the three second rule will lead to the two second rule …

    … regarding cheerios hitting the floor after being thrown from your one year old’s high chair

    forth young shitlords

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    • Greg Eliot says:

      Heh, heh… the cleanest place on the floor is around the highchair, if there’s a hound in the house. 😉

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      • Vagina dominator says:

        Yes, I am obsessive about my hobbies (self defense fighting), but it just struck me that the little redheaded shitlord’s front arm is in a position that I call “externally rotated Z” and that Wing Chun calls “bong sau”.

        Floyd Mayweather and trad boxing use it – illegally – where it is called a “crossface arm”. It is also used in BJJ groundfighting.

        This externally rotated Z is one of the most common structures in good quality fighting because it takes the “strong” side of the arm (the inside) and rotates it outside so that our pushing and warding off becomes strong.

        Dozens of applications in fighting. Imagine the rotated forearm or hand pushing away at the opponents neck, or the backhand palm sweeping or striking the opponent’s neck or head. Or the elbow coming forward from a warding-off position.

        Is this why this redhead kid already looks so strong and manly, this posture?

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  18. CalvinDecline says:

    Haha wow… check the alpha smirk on the latest “teacher of year”… I could take lessons from this b!tch

    http://tinyurl.com/y8ne2l5m

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    • Captain Obvious says:

      Given the look on her husband’s face, and the fact that she s0d0mized the boy, I’m guessing that this couple might have been trying to get into the Comet Ping Pong Pizza scene.

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      • mendo says:

        “raping him”….WTF?! How’s that possible? Was she always strapped (heh) and ready for action and just overpowered the guy?

        Dafuq’s going on here?

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      • tomjones says:

        @mendo

        I didn’t get it either. I thought I read it wrong. Was she sodomized? No. Apparently, she finger raped the boy or strapped on raped him.

        btw, read the comments.

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      • Jaded Jurist says:

        These pics for some reason remind me of the Most Punchable Shítlib contest. Fvck, but it would feel good for my knuckles to connect with that manjaw.

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      • Greg Eliot says:

        The “rape” is merely statutory… and sodomy can be defined as any “unnatural act”… I believe, according to law, even oral sex can be considered “sodomy”, although the common connotation is anal.

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    • Greg Eliot says:

      Haha wow… check the alpha smirk on the latest “teacher of year”… I could take lessons from this b!tch

      I’d be curious to see the smirk on the phiz of the male student after that months-long (ahem) “rape”.

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  19. Starrman says:

    I always frequent this blog to improve my way with the ladies but the Chateau always delivers humor as well, as per this line:

    “This girlpang is the stuff of flowering muff.”

    I laughed out loud. I’m glad I finished my lunch, otherwise I would have been cleaning my computer screen of chicken particulate.

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  20. Jaded Jurist says:

    Damn, I’m spoiled. I checked out the link to Monsieur Mystery, and I was like “This is written in English? Yes, sadly.”

    Thank God there’s a Chateau we all know, where one can find articles written in an elevating, rather than enervating, style.

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  21. Jaded Jurist says:

    The Bard himself wrote no better prose.

    I say this as a competitor, not a genuflector. In the Kumotay of words, I’ve lost before I’ve begun.

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