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Commenter MercifulBoss asks,
I was daygaming at the mall a while ago, got this girls number and took some photos with her and me in the photo for social proof. She opened me on facebook we talked for a bit, I tried to get her out but she found excuses and never went out with me.
Today I was fucking around on Facebook and she opens me saying, “like my photo of me getting kissed?”, its a photo of her sitting at her computer while some random dude kisses her on the cheek.
I didn’t reply (seems like an attention whore to me — I don’t like enabling attention whores).
Was this the correct move, or should I have said something non-commital like, “cool”? The silence could be interpreted like butthurtedness?
All indicators are that she’s a) taken or b) totally uninterested in anything but getting her ego stroked by a chasing beta. I don’t think you have a deep mystery on your hands here. The correct move was moving on.
However, it sounds like you wanted an exploit that would ignite the possibility of slipping the PIV. If so, there are many effective ways you could have replied to her taunt. Examples:
her: “like my photo of me getting kissed?”
you: “you’re real close with your dad/brother/cousin, aren’t you?”
you: “more tongue next time”
you: “presentation: 7, execution: 2″
you: “goddam, dude is slobbering on you like a hungry dog” [boyfriend destroyer subroutine]
you: *popcorn pic* “awesome. steamy lesbian sex” [another boyfriend destroyer PLUS sneaky neg]
you: “you call that a kiss? i’ll show you a kiss.” *send her pic of a Hershey’s kiss*
you: “how cute. you’re looking for my approval” [flipping the native sex script is powerful game]
The point with these replies is that it’s paramount to communicate an aloof, outcome independent, devil-may-care, toes-a-tappin’ alpha male attitude. Amused mastery, in PUA parlance. The best way to do this is through an amalgam of cavalier humor and edgy teasing.
This method is probably the only really results-replicable, reliable, game-savvy response to an attention whore dropping beta bait into the Facebook tank and fishing for nibbles or whole chomps from desperate orbiters. She’s already put you on the defensive; therefore most replies, like “cool”, will carry a whiff of butthurt.
Radio silence of course is your next best option, but that doesn’t leave much room for burying the beef hatchet in that ratchet. Silence is a very passive opt out of an attention whore feeding frenzy. It isn’t butthurt — men tend to overestimate women’s ability to read spite into silence — but it isn’t a proactive game tactic, either. At best, it leaves her wondering what you really think and leaves you free to spend your valuable time on other less emotionally needy women.
Just follow the patented CH Maxim of Seductive Interaction:
Maxim 5: Charisma before silence, silence before self-incrimination.