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If your girlfriend is complaining about your selfishness, you’re doing it right.
Your gift to her is that you don’t go around sleeping with other women.
Meaningless acts of romance are far more meaningful to girls than meaningful acts of romance.
Similarly, spontaneous expressions of romance will linger in a girl’s memory far longer than elaborately planned romantic gestures.
‘Romantic gestures’ is redundant. *Any* gesture done for a girl who already likes you is romantic.
Role-playing is worth ten diamond tennis bracelets in a girl’s captured imagination.
A girl’s urge to pressure you to marry is inversely correlated to her depth of love for you.
Corollary: a marriage ultimatum means she is on the cusp of falling out of love with you.
Love is as corrupted as any other barter in the mating market, but its great advantage is that it never feels that way.
Marriage counselors could save more marriages simply by uttering these two words: tease her.
The alpha male way to apologize for a minor offense is a shoulder rub. The alpha male way to apologize for a grave offense is cunnilingus.
All regrets and apologies should be expressed long enough after the offense was committed that a direct connection between offense and contrition is plausibly deniable. This is known as the Betafication Avoidance Buffer.
A strong relationship is defined as one in which your girlfriend’s friends all want to sleep with you.
Once a girl falls in love with you, she will stop taking the counsel of her friends’ opinions regarding your compatibility with her.
Corollary: You are then free to piss off her friends as much as you want.
Love is margin for error.
Love like an idealist, think like a cynic.
Relationships are more erector set than blank white canvas.
But when the time comes to paint, paint with the entire palette.
If she wants to see you one more day per week than you want to see her, you’re doing it right.
Texting is a great way to get out of hour-long nightly phone conversations, while at the same time keeping the embers of infatuation burning.
If she plans three dates for every two of yours, you’re doing it right.
A girl in love is one who withers as much from withheld compliments as from supplied criticism.
Give her an email address that you rarely access. There are many ways to stoke the female yearning for an elusive man.
Her infidelity is an automatic relationship or marriage terminator, except under one circumstance: she was cheating with your other girlfriend.
If she sneaks away to reapply her lipstick after every make-out, she is afraid she’ll stop pleasing you. Or she’s a street walker.
A bay window, a cool summer’s night breeze, and ambient light backgrounding fettuccine alfredo and pinot noir is the female equivalent of receiving the perfect hummer.
The neg never dies. It just fades away.
If she assumes the doggie position unprompted, you’re doing it right.
If she gives you mouth love without you having to ask for it, you’re doing it more right than you can fathom.
“You make me feel happy” is the pre-cum of a girl’s oxytocin-greased mental ejaculation. Her orgasmic “I love you” is less than one month away.
A good relationship is one in which you joke that you are her king, and there is an undercurrent of wishful seriousness in her playful response.
If you tell her you feel a little under the weather, and she comes over to your place with OJ, herbal tea, soup, and cough medicine, you’re doing it right.
Don’t rush the naturally emerging stages of the relationship. Men who rush things are insecure about their staying power. Men who have options are comfortable taking their time getting entangled with a girl. Most hot young girls prefer the latter; cougars, fatties, and single moms prefer the former.
If you are significantly higher value than the girl you are dating, don’t underestimate the degree to which she can become obsessed with you. An available alpha male giving signals of commitment is like finding a giant diamond lying on the ground in a state park; it just doesn’t happen for most girls.
When she starts inviting you on her vacations and business trips, she loves being with you. When she pays your way, she hates being without you.
Better she is an infatuated lover than a loving dilettante.
If you haven’t had an argument within the first two months, you’ve passed an important test. If you haven’t had an argument within the first year, you’ve failed an important test.
Girls take seriously their pets’ opinions of you. One purring cat can shave off seven hours of courtship.
Beware girls who always want to go to “events” or “do interesting things” with you. They fear the connection will break without the scaffolding of a contrived shared experience. If she’s happy sitting on a park bench with you people watching she’s a keeper.
Joyfully fornicate with girls who are always drunk when they’re with you. But don’t date them.
If a girl loves you, all problematic matters that would have presented an obstacle to the initial seduction become irrelevant or are actually turned in your favor.
After one month together, you will be astonished at how often and how vigorously a girl in love will qualify herself to you without you even trying to instigate it. Don’t interrupt her when she’s doing this.
It is a girl’s natural state of mind to question your worth when she is not in love. In contrast, it is her natural state of mind to question her own worth when she is in love.
When a girl is down on herself, do not try to lift her up. It is enough that you are there listening to her.
Saying less is always preferable to saying more. She will be inclined to imbue your silence with positive connotations, and your loquacity with suspicion.
Girls will sometimes preemptively break up with you if they suspect you are too much alpha for them. In these cases, the impending breakup is best averted by nuzzling your head in her boobage for ten minutes. Your body language should mimic a cat’s.
Occasional displays of testosterone (ODTs) are more effective, require less effort, and are more fun than “talking it out” when the relationship is rocky. Curse profligately, punch a wall, slam a door, grab a wrist, break a lamp, menacingly wield a heavy object, and disappear for days at a time — then sit back as she swoons and resubmits to your authority.
Preternaturally serene mindfucking is the ultimate ODT, but should not be attempted by men low in intelligence or feeble of will. Do not mindfuck girls who are less than an 8; you could destroy them for any future beta desperate to settle down with a has-been and populate the country with future generations of danegeld-paying cogs.
You know that song “Love is Like Oxygen”? There’s no such thing as too high.
You could spend $100,000 on a lavish wedding, but the thing she’ll most fondly remember is that erotic note you hastily scrawled on a cocktail napkin and passed to her under the table. Think about it.