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In the event I ever feel compelled to ask a girl I am dating for her opinion on aspects of me that relate to my attractiveness to women in general, I always take into account the balance of power in our relationship. If she perceives her value to be lower than mine, true or not, then I know not to expect an objective, unbiased opinion from her when discussing those things that might enhance my sexual marketability.
One such subject matter is fashion. In an age when women are abandoning their natural calling to nurturing, monogamous relationships with reliable providers for the player lifestyle of serial flings practiced by men, the modern man has learned to accept that an eye-catching sense of style is an increasingly important tool in his efforts to sell himself to women. But straight men are so far behind the fashion curveball that they have had to turn to the women in their lives for advice on how to dress seductively. They usually turn to girlfriends. This is a mistake.
No girlfriend has ever given me a straight answer on anything that wasn’t distorted in some way by her fear of losing me to another woman. If I’m shopping for new clothes with a girl who is really into me, she’ll do her best to frump me out in baggy button down shirts a size too large and in formless Hanes Beefy T’s.
From her perspective, this makes perfect sense. She is emotionally invested in me so the last thing she wants is for me to look good enough to other women to be a flight risk. It will only make her more insecure having to deal with the flirtations of boyfriend-stealers. If you have one of these girls in your life, don’t expect her to ever approve of that tight designer shirt tailored to accentuate your masculine ‘V’. Your best bet is to go shopping with girl buddies who secretly harbor an infatuation with you. They will act out their fantasies through the clothes they make you try on.
Your other option is to date girls who think they are higher value than you. This type of girl will actually work to make you look better because so much of her validation is wrapped up in how others judge her choice in boyfriend. The trade-off is that you’ll be dating a self-absorbed princess. But at least you’ll look good.