Nothing like a leetle auto-fill search query to pry open the lid on the female id.
The urge to trade up is stronger in women than in men, both because male sexual attractiveness is contextual and mutable and because women are disposed by the circumstances of their biology to be more careful about their mate choices. Women, unlike men, are practically born with their SMV already established. A pretty wife will stay attractive to her husband as long as she stays pretty. There’s not much contextual nudging, other than drastic weight gain and aging, that will greatly influence a woman’s SMV. So that’s why we uncover evidence that there is greater concern among women about lost attraction for their boyfriends and husbands than there is among men about lost attraction for their wives.
Continuing with the theme, here’s the same query after a small syntax change:
The rewording is subtle, but important. The first query is premised on an accepted loss of attraction, and a post-hoc search for rationalization. This second query is premised on a deeper worry about a missing attraction that should be there. It’s the type of wording a despondent searcher might use if he or she was trying to make sense of the dying love, and interested in fixing the “problem”.
The results are telling. The first hit — men asking why they aren’t attracted to their wives anymore — implies that there was previous attraction, but some mysterious occurrence (age? fatness?) changed the equation, and now the men want to know how to go back to the way things were.
The women, starkly, ask in a way that could be fairly interpreted as never having had attraction for their husbands (or niceguys). They have these wet noodle beta hubbies and orbiting niceguys whom they are inculcated by everyone around them to lust after, and yet despite the social pressure they can’t understand why the men they should desire leave them feeling… unmoved down there.
The final search result reinforces the point about social pressure yielding to primal desire. Presumably non-black women, steeped in a culture that propagandizes the sexual and romantic allure of black men, struggle with deeply innate feelings that are at odds with the juggernaut of cultural messages telling them to feel the opposite way.
Female hypergamy is real, even if the term is off-putting to around-the-way sadists. Cultural influence is real, too, but largely ineffectual against hindbrain desire. Intense and persistent media propaganda can only effect changes in human mate choice at the farthest margins, where the weakest-willed are most susceptible to social pressures to fit in with a mirage. Innate sexual desire is a prime force too powerful for the depraved elite’s mindfuck machines to overcome.
Hat tip, reader “Humans are animals” for the idea.
[…] Emanations Of Hypergamy […]
Why do you use “he or she”? I think Antonin Scalia makes a point of using “he” in order to resist the language police.
to be honest, F#ck the emanations of hypergamy (not F you because you wrote about them, but just in general toward the affliction itself).
Women have it. Always will!
Alpha cures it. Always will! (or at least keeps it at bay).
There is no cure.
There is a proven treatment plan: PATRIARCHY
There is indeed no cure. On that note behold the quintessential beta husband realising that being a “good husband” was not enough. Note especially her reasons for leaving him behind. Read it and be aware!
http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/love,-sex-and-relationships/the-three-little-words-that-ended-a-marriage-20140810-3dg37.html
I just had some fun with Google. I typed ‘Men are’, and it came up with some suggestions. The same for ‘Heterosexuals’. but when I typed ‘Negroes are’ and ‘Blacks are’ and ‘Gays are’ and ‘Homosexuals are’. Google fails to give any suggestions.
Draw your own politically correct conclusions.
The validity of google auto-fill search query is based on the premise that the people doing the searching are NOT idiots, stupid, ignorant, ni66ers….
The general public is generally stoopid; behind a keyboard they are even worse.
google auto-fill only tells you what people are searching for; if the people doing the searching are idiots; what have you r
eally found?
Yep lol
The why is super clear.
Every completion of those beginnings is “offensive”.
Same reason that whatever euphemism gets made up to refer to those groups becomes a slur.
“Gay” was created to be a nice sounding euphemism and only became an insult when the new meaning stuck in people’s heads.
There was time when ‘gay’ meant ‘happy, carefree’.
There was a time when ‘fail’ was a verb.
There was a time when ‘night life’ meant something other than selfie-ops.
There was a time when most guys didn’t go bald before the age of 50.
Long time gone.
“Gay” is a term that goes back many centuries — in English — and started life as a referrence for homosexual.
Obviously, it started out as an ironical term.
Most homosexuals are anything but happy and light-hearted.
Of course, the bitterest homosexual is a lesbian.
Get a lesbian drunk… and out it pours.
“Gay” meaning ‘happy’ is of a much more recent vintage.
“late 14c., “full of joy, merry; light-hearted, carefree;” also “wanton, lewd, lascivious” . . . The word gay by the 1890s had an overall tinge of promiscuity — a gay house was a brothel. . . Slang meaning “homosexual” (adj.) begins to appear in psychological writing late 1940s, evidently picked up from gay slang and not always easily distinguished from the older sense . . .”
Sailer discovered that they indeed do scrub auto fill suggestions
@backchecking – the adjective “gay” in Victorian times was used to mean a prostitute – there’s a Victorian cartoon of two miserable-looking street girls talking in a rainy street. Caption – “How long have you been gay?”
In the 1950s it was in general use as meaning happy, carefree. It was used as a girl’s name – there were a fair few Gays at my English high school.
Very interesting research, Heartiste, and reader “Humans are animals” who came up with the idea. So simple, and so telling – the kind of research the controlled media will therefore never do.
Really nothing to add, except one thing: Going to the beach and the bath house really strips away (literally) all obfuscating layers and lays bare what attracts us or not. No hiding behind rationalizations and pretty lies there, the id knows what it wants. It takes only a fraction of a second for the human eye to determine who is attractive and who is ugly. For example, looking at two charcoal-black Negro kids lowering themselves into the swimming pool will inevitably remind you of turds splashing in water.
What, “racist” I am? If observing human differences makes it so, then yes, of course. In fact, Arab, Persian and other immigrants are also repulsed by the oddest of odd peoples. This summer has been very enlightening.
been hanging at the bath house have ya?
Shut up Talmudikim and go back to the yeshiva and put Rabbi Cohen’s dick back in your mouth.
Tilikum, some of us work out. Your earlier comments show that you don’t, since you don’t know the first thing about gyms for example. So your comment here doesn’t surprise me. I would be surprised if you could swim. Little fatty loser.
He’s not an ooJ, Shane… he’s merely lashing back because somebody insulted negroes… which he himself isn’t, mind you. :duckface:
> “Intense and persistent media propaganda can only effect changes in human mate choice at the farthest margins, where THE WEAKEST-WILLED are most susceptible to social pressures to fit in with a mirage”
Three words: STANLEY. ANN. DUNHAM.
Frankfurt School propaganda only works on the weak-willed: Nymphomaniacs [Mandingo phenomenon as propagated via Paul Robeson and Sidney Poitier], Hypochondriacs [jews control the fraudulent nutritional supplement business], children [jews control the toy business], shop-a-holics [jews own the QVC Channel], etc etc etc.
For all intents and purposes, you don’t find jews involved in any enterprise where actual useful meaningful productive activity takes place. It’s always something fraudulent like usury or psychotherapy or snake-oil sales or stealing candy from children.
Always preying on the weak-willed. ALWAYS.
Which, by the way, is why the Frankfurt School so desperately needs Obama to amnesty all these tens of millions of new Democrat voters – because they ran out of WEAK-WILLED people to con at the voting booth, before they got to a permanent majority of 50% + 1.
So the jews are resorting to what comes naturally to them: CHEATING. If you can’t sway 50% + 1 of public opinion with your con-artistry, then CHEAT, and import a new public which is more WEAK-WILLED and more readily receptive to the con.
Zombie responds to himself four times in a row in twenty minutes. Mental.
Jew Within, use your big jew brain and build yourself a time machine and go back to Nazi Deutschland and get your ass incinerated at Dachau or Auschwitz or whereever.
@Zombie
Get a refill on your meds.
Sorry, Jew Within, I don’t do nutritional supplements and I don’t do psychotherapy. Your cousin, Siggy Freud, tried to warn y’all about that shit, in his writing about “Projection”.
@zombie – “you don’t find jews involved in any enterprise where actual useful meaningful productive activity takes place”
Certainly not true in the past. Loads of brilliant scientists and engineers. Does the name Marcel Dassault ring a bell ?
It’s not worth arguing with Zombie (In)sane, he’s just going to continue writing long ass threads babbling back and forth to himself about the Jews and putting buns in people’s ovens.
This site actually used to have some of the more brilliant conversation on the intwerwebz before the tinfoil hat contingency took over. Now it’s just fun to watch in a sad trainwreck kind of way.
That’s racist! I’ve dated black guys at the University of Toronto, and mind you, they are the most kind, understanding, respecting and sweetest men I’ve dated. I would never date an Asian, Moslem, Indian or a Paki because they lack something in the boxer department and they are cheap, stingy and misogynist.
Which is why many of the manoshphere bloggers are complaining about women because they treat women as objects and not human beings.
That’s racist! I’ve dated black guys at the University of Toronto, and mind you, they are the most kind, understanding, respecting and sweetest men I’ve dated.
So…. you mean to tell me… that they were… BETA? lzolzozlzozlz
Please tell us that this is sarcasm and that you aren’t really “Lucy” but are actually “Larry” writing sarcastically as Lucy.
That’s racist! I’ve dated black guys at the University of Toronto, and mind you, they are the most kind, understanding, respecting and sweetest men I’ve dated. I would never date an Asian, Moslem, Indian or a Paki because they lack something in the boxer department and they are cheap, stingy and misogynist.
Gotta be a joke comment. “Kind, understanding, respecting” and “sweetest”. Not “sweet” but “sweetest”. Joke comment.
0/10.
If there is one central theme to all of the manosphere and boggerati it is not that we desire to treat women as objects or non-humans. In fact, it is quite opposite. We desire women to be more feminine, more caring, more understanding, more loving…more human. Instead a vast majority of women are uncaring, unthinking and are completely worthless except in their ability to serve as slightly better then a hand, some jurgens, and lame internet porn. Sites like CH and anyone else actually are more into self improvement. They teach men to get hobbies, work out, dress better, hang out with friends, get a good job and score the woman of their dreams.
Your liberal agenda is such a part of you that you cannot see us as humans trying to live a better life. You are a black hole. heh
Hypergamy/biology is racist…
I think the deeper issue is that when one has no libido, one can’t remember the feeling of being horny. When a woman loses attraction to a man, attraction that stimulated her sex drive, she has trouble remembering what horniness feels like once attraction goes.
Men, on the other hand, have a higher, more constant level of sex drive. They can still associate a person with their own internal horniness.
Another way to put it: In women, attraction stimulates horniness. In men, horniness stimulates attraction.
yet ANOTHER pro comment.
wtf boys…..killing it lately.
Just sharing my hard-won experiences and in-depth research with you lads.
Funny how Tili never has anything to contribute. His lack of any sort of experience is always painfully obvious. Uneducated, old, at society’s lowest rungs, with no experience of dating or of working out. Pathetic, really.
there are men who do and (apparently) men who chat it up like 12 year old girls and snap towels in the bath house.
What am i gonna tell a CH or a Rollo? Not much.
But if making rambling plebeian comments by yourself, Zombie Shane, and Greg Eliot make you feel connected to some larger tribal whatever then hey have at it.
I prefer to police you guys so the newbies don’t take you so seriously and go looking for their own Jodie Foster to stalk 😉
You policing? That’s a laugh, considering the amount of times I alone have made you wear your ass for a hat in my role here at the chateau’s bouncer of you muh-diklings.
In the future, Rastus, try to remember that here in the white man’s world, it’s traditional to declare victory only AFTER it’s been achieved.
(((shakin’ mah haid)))
Tilikum … what’s your relation to Tilikum?
@ Pluviophile
???
Read Tilikum’s story and see if he isn’t a symbol of the whole men’s rights movement.
http://www.seaworldofhurt.com/features/30-years-three-deaths-tilikums-tragic-story/
indeed. he grabbed the ones trying to socialize and thereby objectify him…..and drug them to the bottom and held them there until he was ready.
As a female in Toronto, I think you are sexist to undermine the sexuality of women. Women are human beings and not objects
Gotta be sarcasm.
PS: Pics of your shaved vulva or STFU.
yawn
Height/weight/race sweet cheeks? “Females in Toronto” is a very diverse group.
Btw, ‘human’ isn’t a compliment.
In many cases, ‘object’ is better.
Nobody’s undermining anything. Understand it, maybe, not not undermine. I think you’ll find CH really enjoys a woman who’s comfortable in her sexuality (shall we say). Just doesn’t respect it.
Last month I typed “why does….”
… and the first autofill suggestion was “…my vagina itch.”
Google is truth serum.
Could be that cock buffet your vaj was taking in last night.
Don’t pick up a shiv if you can’t wield it properly, Pubic Hair Puffed Out With Vaj So Nast.
@The Spirit Within
You’re sorely mistaken if you thought that was directed at you. You don’t have a vaj, so why are you reacting to it as if you do?
Heh, heh… once again the Foreskin Within takes it on the chin.
lzozlzozlzozlzolzolzolzozal
@Hair
Your comment seemed to be directed at me (a man). My bad. Maybe yours too.
@Greg Eliot
Fuck off.
Tsk, tsk… is that any sort of language for one so full of (ahem)… spirit?
LZLZZIZKZOZLZIZLZIZLZIZLZOZLZOZLOZLOZLOZL
Google “Why is”…
An interesting quote by Rollo Tomoassi that addresses (in his words) the strictest blue pill adherents but can also be applied to the subset of the manosphere that yearns for how things were.
“And ironically, it will be the most stubborn of blue pill Beta men, advocating for a return to an old-order social contract destroyed by the very women they hope will respond to it, who will be the last to finally accept and respond to the new-order of open hypergamy.”
As for me, I’ll be looking for a spot by the pool.
poolside in nepal?
I doubt he’s actually in Nepal. It may just be that Himalayan a bunch bitches.
Dissident has the right idea here
It wasn’t women who destroyed traditional family life. It was the media, controlling politics the way media acting in concert will always do in a democracy. Especially television, which people’s brains aren’t made to handle, as they respond to well-liked characters on a TV screen the way they would to real people.
Women follow the men and the media. Men follow the media.
Men abdicated that responsibility in the name of “fairness” (and possibly, pussy).
So now the kindergarteners are teaching class.
Kindergartners, of course, being women.
More like inmates running the asylum.
Yes.
TV has been an unmitigated force of Evil against White people.
It’s a manufactured ghetto of the worst variety primarily produced for female consumption, which is why it tends to feminize in body and spirit male viewership.
“It wasn’t women who destroyed traditional family life. It was the media, controlling politics the way media acting in concert will always do in a democracy.”
this is and never was a democracy. corporate crony kleptocracy maybe. mafia is a better word – a small group monopolizing the use of violence. see coca cola in WWII for a perfect example of a “nation” doing the bidding of a group of private citizens.
traditional life was sentenced to death on xmas eve 1913 and executed when nixon took us off the gold standard. U.S. officially defaulted on its obligations. central banker globalists killed us and we let them do it. feminist magazines were cia controlled. women going to work had nothing to do with equal rights and everything to do with the debasement of the u.s. dollar. one income could no longer support a family.
“give me control of a nation’s money and i care not who makes its laws.”
They have no control over oxytocin and dopamine.
“And ironically, it will be the most stubborn of blue pill Beta men, advocating for a return to an old-order social contract destroyed by the very women they hope will respond to it, who will be the last to finally accept and respond to the new-order of open hypergamy.”
I think he’s a bit off on his prediction. I think blue-pill betas refusing to learn Game and going MGTOW en masse is considerably more likely. Hard statistics on marriage rates and opinions on marriage bear this out.
In which case “MGTOW” = ascetic hermetic asexual lifestyle?
The ancient Greeks would have been appalled – they associated femininity with BEAUTY [Chaos, Psyche] and masculinity with FERTILITY [Eros]:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eros
No masculinity => no seed planted in birth canal => no buns in oven => no new life => EXTINCTION.
What is wrong with extinction? Can you make an argument for why the human race needs to continue? I haven’t heard of one, so I’m interested if you have something.
Zombie has a touch of existential angst.
” What is wrong with extinction? Can you make an argument for why the human race needs to continue? I haven’t heard of one, so I’m interested if you have something. ”
Go kill yourself, and you’ll find out.
– where are these statistics regarding opinions on marriage? (not trying to be snarky, just curious about how the data is gathered)
It’s this same “innate” code that prohibits the human race from accomplishing anything, ultimately. There will never be world peace, never a population disease-free. The fundamental mechanism of life is “broken” at it’s core (when viewed through the lens of intelligence, which is itself and evolutionary dead end). CH: you’ll accept the hard truths regarding mating, but can you do that for life itself?
Tell that to the Amish – they turned their backs on the nihilism of modernity and walked away and are now flourishing as a result of that decision.
While on the other side is the ultimate nihilist Cioran
Is this purely a tractate against civilization and any human endeavor or perhaps there is truth in it, that every idea in itself brings the seed of destruction rendering the creation of any higher form impossible?
“In itself, every idea is neutral, or should be; but man animates ideas, projects his flames and flaws into them; impure, transformed into beliefs, ideas take their place in time, take shape as events: the trajectory is complete, from logic to epilepsy . . . whence the birth of ideologies, doctrines, deadly games.
Idolaters by instinct, we convert the objects of our dreams and our interests into the Unconditional. History is nothing but a procession of false Absolutes, a series of temples raised to pretexts, a degradation of the mind before the Improbable. Even when he turns from religion, man remains subject to it; depleting himself to create fake gods, he feverishly adopts them: his need for fiction, for mythology triumphs over evidence and absurdity alike.”
― Emil Cioran, A Short History of Decay
Don’t fool yourself. They are not flourishing, only getting by like the rest of us.
The entire point of the post was that this stuff is biological, not something that a societal construct can alter. Your response is all about culture though, when it’s the biology that is the issue.
But the Amish can only exist as they do within a wider technological framework. They may not actively participate, but they still enjoy the fruits of it (gas-powered fridges, a vaccinated population not spreading disease, economic trade, etc).
Truly turning one’s back on modernity comes with a pretty steep price.
” But the Amish can only exist as they do within a wider technological framework. They may not actively participate, but they still enjoy the fruits of it (gas-powered fridges, a vaccinated population not spreading disease, economic trade, etc). ”
The Amish don’t vaccinate their children. I have my doubts about the gas-powered fridges also.
>>> I have my doubts about the gas-powered fridges also.
“have” them? they ==build== them
Intelligence an evolutionary dead end? Intelligence allows the human species to spread across the planet and dominate other species. It allows us to aim for the stars. In the very long run, life can only survive because of intelligence.
In the VERY long run, life can only survive because of air, water and sunlight.
Humans have been allowed to trample roughshod over the Earth for an evolutionary blink of an eye, which is likely an aberration. It will be fixed eventually, after which life will continue, human-free, for several more billion years or so.
life thats adaptable survives. Intelligence is merely one aspect of adaptability, and only really pertains to technology/tool use.
if the organism is spergy like you but un-adaptable, then intelligence is absolutely a evolutionary dead end.
Cortesar, you’re correct. It is the truth. It’s just that it’s the ugliest if truths, so not many like to go there. Possibly you’d like the Facebook group Nihilistic Hell (be warned that those people are angry at life, but it’s because they know the truth, and accept it rather than ignore/decorate it).
Ah… women…
“I’m pretty much in the same boat as everyone here. I have the most amazing husband. He treats me great and spoils me rotten. He has a great job , we travel a lot (too much), financially supports me, and we barely fight. I’m so lucky to have him. We’ve been married 5 years and together for 9. I find him handsome but there is no sexual chemistry. I force myself to sleep with him weekly. Ive always thought it was my libido. We ended up separating last year for 7 months bc his job takes him overseas frequently and I was trying to decide if that’s the lifestyle I want. I ended up meeting a guy 15 years older then me and we had instant chemistry . Sparks flying like I’ve never felt with anyone. And I was not looking to meet anyone. The guy knew I was separated . And my husband knew I met someone else. We dated for 5 months. I found out its not my libido bc the OM thought I could be a sex addict. My husband said he couldn’t live without me, and I do adore him, he’s too good of a guy to let go of. So we are back together. But I constantly think of the amazing sex and chemistry I shared w the OM. I know it was morally wrong and even though I’m a flirty person I’ve never thought of taking it farther. But I just wish I could have that chemistry with my husband. I know the OM is not good for me , and I want to get him out of my head. My hubby thinks I just never have had a sex drive . Wish I could make myself have this chemistry w my (almost) perfect husband . What’s wrong w me?!”
http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Not-Attracted-To-My-Husband/2223631
jesus what a whore. they really are stupid aren’t they. they have no clue what they want or what they like.
The bottom line is that we’re insatiable creatures. Nothing is good enough to satisfy our desires, which are constantly fluctuating. Hence the need to always do shit, and then find new shit when that gets boring.
dumber than shit.
if a man ever thinks his relationships are anything but husbandry…
Then it’s the hubby’s fault for tolerating such behavior in his wife. The punishment should have been quick and painful – in the Skinnerian sense.
I’ve banged a few women like that and there is always a pathetic husband in the background.
Hubby needs to slap you around and hold you down and take a dump on your face. Then you would respect hubby and get lots of tingles for him…
it really is just an endless list of “IM JUST NOT HAPPYYYYYYYYYYY ANYMORE” i me i me i me i me i me i, not attracted, me i me i me i me me me me me me me me me me me me me me, great provider, ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww sex with my husband
Dat red pill tho.
Gentlemen. The message thread in the parent post needs to be carved into stone at every popular wedding locale across the world.
DO NOT COHABITATE OR MARRY. EVER. IT IS NEVER WORTH IT.
BE THE ALPHA FUCKS, NOT THE BETA BUCKS.
in other words be randy and random
man domesticated dogs and other farm animals
women watched, learned and tried to domesticate men, many of whom become betas or worse as a result
Meh, Mrs. Gamer thinks that I’m the hottest thing since sliced bread, although sometimes she doesn’t like me very much. I do aloof jerk like I’m a natural. Oh, wait, I am. Never mind.
CH, how about a post describing the “war on whites” taking place?
A nice shiv to the naysayers, bleeding hearts, and cathedral cronies, with some solid evidence to back it.
[CH: that would be like a post on the history of everything. a project of that scope would require its own blog.]
How about we stay on the girls instead.
You can’t handle the truth about blacks.
The Jew Within is a paid professional fifth columnist sent over here by Sunstein and Axelrod in order to try to keep us from discussing the Frankfurt School’s Final Solution of Race Replacementism by which they intend to destroy America and Western Civilization.
Get back on the meds, Zombie.
Sigh….exactly what my professor warned. #privilegedwhitemales
#whiteslavetrade
#holocaust
#oppression of women
#sexism
#elliotrodger
Privilege is a myth. It’s not our fault that we evil white males are more competent and smarter than you dumb broads and all the stone-age Diversity around, lzozlzozlzozlz
And since the thread is about Google auto-fill, open up Google and type “white privilege is” in the search. You leftoids are looozzzzzingggg. lozlzozlzozlzozlz.
Calm down Lucy. Your comments are not coherent. If you are going to argue against men, and against the topic of the post, at least make it coherent, so your argument can be taken seriously.
Also it is not good to say others are racist, and then use the racial slur “paki”, in next comment.
But anyway I would love to answer a few of your points.
– Slave trade.
Africans traited and sold their own people in to slavery to benefit financially. There were also african slave owners, as well as traders.
– Opression of women.
The most opressed women in the world are in Africa and middle East, and they are not opressed by white men. Their own men are cutting off their clitoris, (female circumcision), and selling them. No other group of women is treated as good by their men, than white women.
– Sexism. You yourself are being sexist with #privelagedwhitemales.
-Elliot Rodger. I believe he was mixed race.
It is amazing how people react when truth hits outside of comfort zones.
@Lucy, are you familiar with the joke about the bear and the hunter?
wear something sexy with high heels ill pick you up at 10pm
Every know and then a stupid cunt stumbles upon this blog
This one also happens to be illiterate as most of millennials are.
Beyond contempt and even beyond ridicule
“Every know and then a stupid cunt stumbles upon this blog”
I think a lot of stupid cunts stumble upon this blog. The problem is when a stupid cunt tries to contribute.
You know the men here don’t care what you think, right?
@efo… Who’s buying the clitori?
Read The Occidental Observer for a detailed account of The War On Whites.
How about a post about the fact that the white birth rate is below the replacement rate for the last two decades?
Heartiste, take a look at this gem:
How Ladies Should Behave.
“The women, starkly, ask in a way that could be fairly interpreted as never having had attraction for their husbands (or niceguys).”
While I certainly understand how the wording can lead to that impression, and I don’t deny that the women will end up feeling like there never was any attraction, you must also recognize that women are insanely good at gaslighting.
The reality is she wouldn’t have forged a long boyfriend/husband relationship if she wasn’t at some point attracted to the man. However, after years of incessant bitchiness and nagging, she may break a man down into a beta shell of his former alpha self. At which point, in order to alleviate her guilt at throwing the relationship/marriage away without any real efforts at repairing things, she will convince herself that she was never attracted to the very same man that she used to be so attracted to that she would let him violate her next to a dumpster behind a Chinese restaurant when they first started dating.
This may apply in modern western societies, but in many places around the world – or even in the ‘West’ only a few decades ago – marriages very often are/were based on things other than attraction/lust/love.
Status, economy, partnership, ‘it’s time for me to get married’, arranged by parents, any number of reasons.
I respect your thought-train, but NOT your knowledge of current events.
In gigantic portions of the “arranged-marriage”-osphere, the “arranging” is at best nominal only.
Source: having lived in a conservative Gulf kingdom for 3 years. And that was 15 years ago.
At that time, the parental intervention was limited to circumscribing the circles within which the daughter might end up meeting guys. Which would still allow her to look at and sniff around at a decent-size selection of guys. Those guys were DEFINED (by her parents sensibilities) as being “probably acceptable” as a “candidate son-in-law”
After a girl chooses which guy is allowed to court her…. actual “dating” manifests as family outings, family day at the mall, etc, etc. Hence the girl’s family has the opportunity to sniff around the guy QUITE closely.
Several middle-aged men told me that they did NOT want to deal with the expense/hassle/headache of personally choosing the son-in-law. It becomes a major project. Ends up as lots of complaining, nagging and pressure from the wife and from the daughter.
Of course, sons are mostly allowed to whatever they want. Just don’t cause any court cases or police visits…..
The problem most women have is that they react to things instinctively, but they aren’t “socialized” in a way that encourages self-examination and critical thinking skills; most do not have the self-awareness to know what they’re doing or why. Most women don’t do any of this intentionally, and so they end up in such a place, miserable, unable to figure out why.
“you must also recognize that women are insanely good at gaslighting. ”
So, so true! I really only had one such experience, and the woman in question and I later reconciled as friends in a completely good day, but the memory of that betrayal can still sting some 40 years down the road.
Woman comment of the week!
Cynthia, I really like your comments. You seem a smart woman.
hypergamy is god.
Ew, what? I think everyone here is very quick to generalize. I would never date someone and look for another guy. I work as an executive in a Bay Street financial firm in downtown Toronto and lead a really fun but fairly normal lifestyle.
I surround myself with attractive, funny, dateable men and women – who also happen to be kind and respectful to the plight of women in Canada. This negative and closed-minded spin on things is just spewed because of some bitter fools who are lashing out about their own personal and limited experiences. Grow up. Women are hotter today than generations before, and you are posting hate speech in your mom’s basement? You fools are probably the same losers who go on witch hunts when male students accuse their female teachers of sexual activity, which is sexist and degrading. Oprah Winfrey already explained why female teachers are fooled into relationships with male students, and this borders on misogyny.
Get a life. If you knew how to respect women as human beings, she would never leave you. The conspiracy theories and sexism is laughable at most
men were scum since they born i’m sure as thrilled to hear that the male clients of sex services will end up as Sex offenders once the bill is passed…men should not take advantage of women in need of money….prostitution is immoral, a sin and bad karma
First and foremost, prostitution is a necessary evil in larger groups of people, it keeps rapes down to acceptable levels.
Most prostitutes are pretty gross (they do NOT look like they do in the movies), and most men who frequent them are not much better.
If there are no prostitutes, there might be a lot of gross loser guys showing up at your place.
the majority of what you wrote was too inane to respond to so i won’t bother but…women are hotter today than generations before? you can’t be serious.
[CH: over the very very long term, women are hotter now. after all, chimp-like humanoid females from a million years ago would be ugly by even feminist standards today. it’s a more interesting and harder question whether women now are hotter than, say, women from 1900, or 1800. Or 200 BC. i suspect that they are, but for the obesity crisis which horribly skews the data.]
Give credit to soap, shampoo, hair conditioner, and running hot water! Plus the mechanical slaves powered by electricity in our private lives.
Young girls past menarche in most cultures are attractive to some degree. We’ve been able to keep women sexually attractive for much longer.
I once ran my hand lovingly across a perfectly carved limestone breast in a dark corner of Ankgor Wat. Most certainly women of yore were beautiful.
They may look hotter but I suspect it has more to do with fashion and cosmetics. Most western women are pretty ugly on the inside not to mention how otherwise attractive girls ugly themselves up with tats and piercings.
I’ve been catching episodes of I Dream of Jeanie on Antenne TV, Barbra Eden and the other chicks who cameo are pretty hot but they’re not wearing yoga pants and tight black dresses.
” the plight of women in Canada”
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Somalia is always accepting immigrants sweetheart. Canada is the only country where you can attempt murder and get away with it due to that precious vagina of yours. Nicole Doucet for PM!
I’m sure all the men reading this blog are will be certain to spend some time contemplating the horrible lot of women in Canada, where they are forced
Every.Single.Day. to do things like:
Use electricity invented by, generated by, routed by, and maintained by men.
Use clean fresh water – discovered, sourced, piped, pumped, sanitized, monitored, installed, and fixed by ……you guessed it – men!
Drive or ride in modern transportation – invented by, built by, powered by, and maintained by (oh the suspense is killing me here) – MEN!
I do admit to feeling shame that men in Canada forcibly rape most women daily, cut off their clitoris, force them to cover themselves head to toe, work out in the fields in all weather, beat them if they don’t immediately comply with instructions, and don’t allow them to vote, own property, speak in public, and kill them if they shame the family.
Is this the portion that Oprah covered about women in Canada? I hope so, because the level of ignorance about the plight of women in Canada is truly mind-boggling.
Plight of women in Canada? What the fuck does anybody (not living on a reservation) in Canada have to complain about?
In Canada, even the reservations have hot women and cold beer.
But then I’d look like the world’s loser race.
maybe u are a loser. only misogynists read these horrific sexist blogs
Are u this stupid?
Point of order:
The garbage cans in the back alleys of abortion clinics are “horrific”…
These blogs are merely unpleasant.
Exactly what is it all these dumbfuck feminists that have been posting on this site want. Are they really so fucking stupid that they believe coming here and spewing their cuntish drivel is going to make us meany minsogynst, chauvinist, sexists change our ways and turn into what they think we should be.
I’m horrific and sexist. And I will objectify you. Wanna party?
It seems to me the first search results were actually statements, not questions.
Good post, interesting. Hypergamy is real. I think there are some reasons of sudden hypergamous urge. Including,
– Female was on the pill when she met her husband.
– Female has hormonal imbalance.
– A group of people influenced her in not being attracted anymore to her husband. (Women bitching about each other’s husbands.)
– Inflated self esteem.
– Evolutionary reason Resources. Maybe the man really can not provide and she wants to be provided for. (Which yes it is mean, but such is nature.)
– Why women not attracted to men of other race. Well, this seems completely natural to find your own race more attractive. There must be something in people of race that makes them want to breed with their own race. For example, we naturally want our babies to look like us because we want to continue our genes, interracial breeding is going to make the chance your offspring look like you, much lower.
I suspect there are even biological things going on which make us really not want to marry another race. For example, we smell different to each other. (This seems racist I know, but it is not hateful, it just observation.) A big part of if we attracted to another is subconcious, (another’s scent, pheromones.) If the gap between the races smell is so big, is maybe a sign that optimally healthy offspring are not going to be produced?
– Why men not attracted to wives anymore? Well, yes weight gain and ageing are surely a big factor. I also think if the wife is bitchy or nagging is going to be a factor. Humans are animals, yes, but we are also intelligent animals with emotions, and how long can one live with a mean person no matter how attractive they are?
Glad you brought up pheromones. The deepest link between emotions and our sensory world is our sense of smell. we all have our individual scent which informs others of our health, fertility, and race – even hair color!
I suggest you folks check out exogenous pheromones and learn how to use them. Used well, on the right target and they can be amazingly effective.
Here’s a good source with a users forum – http://love-scent.com/
Broadsman, it really is fascinating yes.
But I am skeptical of the “love scents” and pheromone perfumes.
I subscribe to a perfume catalogue and I gave the men’s pheromone colognes to my god brother and my cousin. I wanted to know if it would work, they claimed it did not.
I theorize that if it does work for some men, it could be a placebo effect. If he thinks it works and he feels more attractive, he is going to be more confident thus attracting more women.
Also, I do not understand the logic of it. Surely, we are all attracted to different pheromones, and if it does not match the man’s constitution it will not work. I could be wrong, it is just theory.
On the topic of smell, I also think it is very fascinating topic, the major histocompatibility complex and sexual selection. Which is a kind of natural protection against inbreeding , though it is controversial the role it plays in human sexual selection.
This would protect against those with too similar genes to us, for example, thalassemia gene, which if the couple breed together with that gene there are huge risks for the child. It is so common among my people, that the man and woman are both tested for the gene prior to marriage.
I believe if you live in a small community/population there are probably advantages in mixing of different european groups that increase genetic fitness. Or at least different “areas”, because here in the mountains the people have a very distinctive look, overwhelmingly blue eyed and pale skinned compared to the rest of population. And the coastal people tend to be darker people with darker eyes. There is obviously interbreeding somewhere down the line, if one lives in a village of 400 it is not uncommon. Until recently, villagers tend to stick together, and believe the people from the other villages are “dumb and inbred”. And if you see an inbred person, you know it. Some people of gypsy communities actually look frightening.
So, the point I am trying to make, (not very articulately, I know.) The sense of smell and it role in mate selection seems to be very important. Experiments have shown women prefer the sweat of men who have different immune systems. This is in favor of genetic fitness. However, could there also be something which guards against preferring the scent of those TOO genetically distant from us. To quote CH, “Humans are animals”, but cultural imperatives also play a great role in this. For example, studies have shown that women prefer men that bare resemblance to their biological fathers. This suggests there must be a limit to the genetic gap they are seeking. Is the black – white gap too much? Does it decrease genetic fitness? Are we predisposed as humans to breed with our kind? I believe so, yes. Maybe that is why the different races smell different to each other. From the same small village? – Maybe too close for comfort. From a different continent – decrease of genetic fitness. All of which our clever noses seem to be doing a great job at sniffing out, because it all serves a purpose.
I do wonder about birth control. Many girls I know went on that shit in middle school. Those kind of hormones have to fuck up a developing body (and mind).
Wouldn’t be surprised if some girls get hooked on them for the change in attitude they get from the pill.
It would explain why they want so badly for somebody else to foot the bill for the pill.
RT, it is definitely possible for a woman to be psychologically addicted to it. Any time the hormones are altered artificially, especially from young age a woman is not going to be used to her normal cycle and natural monthly hormone fluctuations.
Cynthia, there are many side effects of the pill depression, larger breasts,
weight gain, nausea, emotional sensitivity, mood swings, irregular bleeding,
breast pain, decreased libido.
Those seem like the less bad ones. There are terrible ones and women have died from the pill. Studies have also shown women who were taking the pill have lower birth weight babies, and higher chance of the baby premature.
http://truthaboutbirthcontrol.com/ . I do not doubt there are other side effects on the brain and body of a developing woman, from taking the pill early. Girls are taking it from age 13, sometimes for “acne, menstrual pains”, etc.
On the other hand, the medical benefits to the woman of just having babies are great.
“Within marriage it should be noted that an openness towards having children yields specific medical benefits. Every additional child a woman bears reduces her risk of breast cancer and ovarian cancer by 5-10%. In addition, breast and ovarian cancer risks are reduced significantly in women who breast feed, with highest reductions in those women who breast-fed for the longest time intervals”.
http://onemoresoul.com/contraception-abortion/risks-consequences/what-a-woman-should-know-about-birth-control.html
Natural family planning when method used correctly has a failure rate of less than 0.2%. AND this is very interesting, Couples who use NFP have a divorce rate that is less than 5%39 —far lower than the national rate of about 50%. And CH has written about the pill and divorce rate, and more info here.http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/birth-control-pills-affect-womens-taste/ .
All this deliberation over Hypergamy and infidelity is rather depressing. Even knowing how to thwart the hypergamous impulses doesn’t really lighten the bleakness of it all. Knowing this shit just colors every aspect of my life now. Sure, I like women and sex is nice but I kind of wish there was hope for marriage and monogamy. I can’t be expected to be 100% Alpha Dawg all day every day. All I can do now is float from fling to fling and do my best not to get attached. Oh well.
[CH: you don’t have to be 100% alpha dog all day every day. you only have to be enough alpha dog to avoid becoming a beta cur. within an LTR, alpha is more like seasoning than the stew.]
o how i laughed at this ” a beta cur”
Dude – cheer the fuck up.
Get out there and put some buns in some ovens.
Once you have kids in your life, there won’t be any free time for melancholy or self-doubt or despair.
Sorry, not keen on having kids just so my wife can blow up the family to chase fresh tingles.
Gotta love that advice. The enemy has you pinned? Just run right into the line of fire like a man!
Come on ZS. Nobody is against buns in ovens. It’s the shit that comes AFTER, aka the divorce-industrial complex backed by armed thugs, that most men don’t want to deal with.
Eliminate marriage as a legal institution, eliminate gender bias in the legal system (e.g. Nicole Doucet) and I’ll personally see that you get your white baby boom. Otherwise, your “buns” policy is the fastest way to get men broke and behind bars.
Good point, Randy, but he can’t think in those terms.
Heartiste, isn’t the best time to sprinkle some beta in, right after a strong, dominant raw dogging?
“you don’t have to be 100% alpha dog all day every day.”
agree. cycle game is all you need. you can write her poetry (or any other beta habits you might enjoy) as long as you’re pounding her hard from behind, calling her names and not answering the phone around ovulation.
“within an LTR, alpha is more like seasoning than the stew.”
agree. i like things spicy (daily sex + bjs) so i use a lot of seasoning (alpha jerk aloof value taker). as the man you’re the chef. dial in the flavor profile to your liking and she will gladly follow.
“Knowing this shit just colors every aspect of my life now.”
internalize and use it to your advantage. “capturing souls” or whatever it’s called now is REAL. this hypergamy we all seem to dread is what makes it possible for her to see you as a god. she will commit crimes, abandon her family, perform every sexual act you can imagine, live to please you. if it’s your seed she wants you can do no wrong.
“I kind of wish there was hope for marriage and monogamy.”
there is. you need luck and game. we have no wall. we can always improve. there’s time and she’s out there.
YODA TEXT GAME:
Her: What are you doing this weekend?
You: Difficult to see. Always in motion is the future.
But you are going to fuck her, right?
You: In you, may the Force be.
[…] Source: Heartiste […]
I have a friend who went on a wild ride that left him half owner of a brothel in Mexico. He couldn’t charge black men more, and he couldn’t get his whores to service black men for the same rate as everybody else, so he ended up paying them an extra kicker under the table to get black men serviced.
On a different note, today’s article left me in a fit of maudlin introspection over how marginal and weak-willed I am to have settled for fucking unattractive women my whole life. It’s pretty bleak to face the truth, but it is the truth.
My will is too weak, and my conditioning is too strong. They haven’t conditioned my lust for beauty out of me, but this lust is at odds with all the other conditioning that was very much successful. I am a freed slave who did not achieve much with his freedom, and just wants to go home. This is why I hedged my bets and stayed married.
Slave life isn’t that bad.
come off it
how strong do you have to be to maintain this frame of being weak willed…pretty fucking strong
if what your really saying is you don’t like what you imagine the consequences…. should you decide to be strong willed with the attractive women that come into your life
then that’s something else completely
I spent some time contemplating this, and concluded that I am afraid of losing control if I ever unchain the beast within again. I let that beast loose once, and the consequences were frightening. I went into something similar to berserker mode, I suppose.
I gave my wife a fucking that would make Max Hardcore cringe, and then spent three days in some kind of delusional, manic state. I could barely function as a human being, and I just wanted to go out in the woods naked, run down a deer, and rip it to bloody shreds with my bare hands.
I chained it back up. I’m scared of it.
It’s my aggressive, masculine side. It’s the side of me girls want. I have little or no control over it, and I could easily end up in jail. My wife is safe to play with, but the girl behind door #3?
My mother conditioned me to repress this, because she didn’t want me turning out like her father. She did a good job is all I can say.
what else could you have concluded
now THAT will be very Interesting
I haven’t read your posts in a while because I knew how restless you were, and I didn’t want to see you destroy everything. I’m really glad you’ve managed to hold things together, improve your marriage, and find more satisfaction in it. If you ever decide to unleash the beast again, there’s always ultimate fighting! 🙂
Off-Topic but more /sigh news: http://www.thestar.co.uk/news/local/sheffield-swingers-club-rapist-guilty-1-6773917
“A cabaret artist dressed as Frankenstein character Herman Munster has been found guilty of raping a 22-year-old woman during a halloween party at a Sheffield swingers’ club.”
“The court heard the woman went to the fancy dress party at the club with two female friends on October 27 and was dressed up as a vampire in a corset, stockings and heels.
Miss Baines said she was a member of the Attercliffe club but never took part in any sexual activity and went there purely to socialise.”
This lass goes into a swingers club with friends dressed like a whore. Goes on stage and allows herself to be “humiliated”, THEN splits off from her friends and goes into a mirrored “playroom” with the guy who “humiliated” her, and apparently then “freezes up” and “watches herself being raped”. Because of COURSE she only went there to “Socialise”….
Lady, what did you expect? It was FRANKENSTEIN… DUH!!!
(actually, it was Frankenstein’s monster, for you sticklers out there)
“Miss Baines said she was a member of the Attercliffe club but never took part in any sexual activity and went there purely to socialise.”
Suuuure you did. You were a member of a swingers club, and you went to a swingers party, “just to socialize”. How dumb do you expect us to be? I can tell the girl is dumb herself, for she was only 22, and one may presume therefore the hottest female in the place, if you consider the normal clientele of a swingers club.
“After the show Smith, who admitted taking Viagra before going to the club, and his friends drank and socialised with the victim and her friends.”
Okay, the Viagra was dumb. But given that he probably only expected used-up women over 40, perhaps it’s understandable. But put a drunk guy on Viagra in close quarters with a 22 y.o. girl, and things are bound to happen, like putting a chunk of raw meat in front of a starving lion and not expecting the lion to go for it. Again, the girl was supremely stupid.
And I wonder who the idiots who voted “guilty” were, anyway.
To further address your second point, women themselves instinctively know that a limit has been set to their charms.
Young and beautiful by Lana Del Rey
This one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVHU_YWV3e4
A man must make a woman uncertain of his attachement and affection.
She will lament about it, perpetually trying to penetrate your soul but never will she question her own attraction to you.
Here is a question for the pros. I met this 34YO very cute young thing online. Blond, divorced sexy body a strong 8 and she is from Macedonia but has lived in the US for a few years. She responds to my note and sends me a nice pic and wants to talk. So we have a nice talk got some laughs did not kiss her ass or anything and she was excited and ready to meet. In fact she offered a day to meet. But I was going on vacation for a week to an exotic location so we would have to do when I got back. She readily agreed. I told her to send me some more pics and she did right away. We chatted a little more via text teasing and laughing. She specifically told me she liked me and I was funny.
So a few days go by and I had no contact. I reached out to her on the weekend to maintain connection and she responded after a long time about 6 hours. I then waited about the same amount of time. Then she responded back to me with one word and that is the last I heard from her. After a few days on my vacation I sent her a pic of us having fun via email and texted her to check her email. Never heard back again. Now it has been a week since first contact and I am considering even messing with her again. But she is very hot.
What would you guys recommend? Should I text her and invite her out to meet or should I wait and casually offer to meet sometime later? It seems kind of strange since I was gaming her well, I was very non needy. Even told her that there was no rush to meeting. Or should I just move on and forget about her? What do you guys recommend?
@Reco A couple of things and a story to share. First “34” is not a “young thing”. You’re around my age and honestly since my disastrous break up last October I have consciously made an effort to avoid as much as possible any girl older than 32 unless there’s a compelling reason. My ex gf is pushing 36 and was smoking hot at 34 when we went out and she broke up.
Secondly…I met a “young thing” of 26 online. The thing about online game is that I’m finding it’s the same as real-life. You need game, you need abundance and you need to be clear in your sexual intent.
The girl I met was all about flirting and responding to my teasing for a day or so. Then she started responding to my amping up the sexual tension. I finally texted “Besides your lips, what part of your body do you most like kissed?”
“Now you’re talking” she replied. I then amped up the game. She made it clear she was looking to be dominated. From her photos she was 7….she said she was a bit big. By Asian standards yes, by Western standards she was not “fat” but bigger: hips, ass, tits–built like a black girl, bigger boned, very well dressed, professional and really sexy eyes.
I gamed her for 4 days getting her masturbating, then phone sex, then she started proactively sending me videos of her getting herself off.
We set up fuck date…and fucked….hard. That’s all we did, everything, BDSM, facials, hair pulling, calling her slut, bitch, everything. She loved this.
The point? IF the girls are interested they’ll let you know very quickly and then if you’ve got tight game you can make it happen quickly.
The ones on the fence will also let you know. I have set up a date this weekend with the 26 year old theatre girl I’ve gamed who has a bf. She was away for a while. I haven’t escalated but she’s given me IOI’s for a while.
I reconnected with one word text game and invited her out. “Cant’ wait” she replied.
The point now, if you believe you can get hotter girls you will work towards getting them. Don’t waste your time on maybe girls.
The other thing…in a conscious attempt to break out of my depression I just started banging girls who were just marginally cute….the confidence you get banging a girl is a big part of helping you to build up that abundance mentality. After banging a few “so so” girls…my attitude became…”I can wait, I can go after the girls I really want to bang and NOT waste my time on 34 year old maybe girls”.
I don’t know why the Macedonian is flaking but the fact is some girls flake, maybe you gave off a needy vibe, maybe she’s just not that engaged, maybe she’s afraid of foreign guys.
I now have a line I use when gaming Asian women that maybe you can use on foreign girls in the US: “Have you ever had a foreign (American?) lover”.
That line is perfect. First I say “lover” not bf meaning have you ever fucked a foreign guy. If they say yes…then you know they know what to expect. If they say “no” you can say “Curious?” see how it goes.
This one line has been so successful for me I now use it every time.
@Reco One more thing to point out. I don’t know your interaction or your game. But here is one line that stands out for me in your report:
“She specifically told me she liked me and I was funny.”
This sounds like something a girl would say to a guy she wanted to be friends with but was not sexually attracted to.
I get things like “You must have tons of girls”—that is a shit-test that also indicates she’s interested in your sexually and is trying to see how you respond.
“You’re funny” is not a compliment you want to hear before you bang a girl….
Sending photos: I can see some guys on her jumping all over this saying “gay”…I do this all the time but I do it taking a selfie of us and then I text it. One thing I’ve found is that by taking selfies you can order girls around, take a few photos…”No, not good enough, let’s try again…”
I think you were really “nice” to her and that didn’t amp up enough attraction. There was great rapport but not enough attraction. There has to be a balance.
I have had this as well. There are girls I know in my social circle who are SMOKING hot….who flirt….but who for one reason or another I just can’t push into a sexual situation. It happens. Get more girls, learn from every interaction and don’t obsess too much about the ones who get away. If you’re finding you’re blowing it with a lot of girls then you need to adjust your game.
I would urge you to order Krauser’s Daygame Mastery and study it. That will help you to fine tune your game so that you come off as sexual right away and then you can avoid time wasters.
I do contact girls who blow me off IF…I get a sense that there is a vibe there. Some girls do want to feel like you’re interested without seeming desperate. It’s a delicate balance that you need to find between chasing and not seeming desperate. I do this IF…if get IOI’s but some resistance. If you get non IOI’s and resistance…move on.
@walwala thanks for the advice that helps. I think you could be on to something about being funny and not thinking in a more sexual way. I may give it one more try and just try to make it more sexual if I can get her to respond.
I also see what you say about that age range, they have been the most trouble for me. I am going to have to go younger. She is probably a lost cause. Sure started off good though. Any ideas on how to open on a text cut or a phone call?
Also I am reading Krausers whole blog from start to finish. About halfway through. And I was thinking about getting Nitro before Mastery, since I am a novice. Should I start with Mastery?
I met this 34YO very cute young thing online. Blond, divorced sexy body a strong 8 and she is from Macedonia but has lived in the US for a few years.
Find a 24YO never-married thing and get back to us.
never put all your eggs in one basket
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dat feel when ur gf leaves you for an alpha jock.
;_;
34 YO young thing??
You made a crucial mistake if she waited 6 hours you should have waited
at least 6 hours and 15 min
That is clearly written in the instruction manual entitled :
“How to be yourself and conquer a lot of pussy by strategically responding to text massages with further elaboration on the number words to be used in each “
Presumably non-black women, steeped in a culture that propagandizes the sexual and romantic allure of black men, struggle with deeply innate feelings that are at odds with the juggernaut of cultural messages telling them to feel the opposite way.
Whiskey wept tears of African semen, the rivulets of which he chased greedily with his tongue.
Given how often they hump fat sows of whatever race, and how much they tolerate fatassery among their own doe-n!ggers, white wimmenz’ disenchantment only makes sense.
I need some help with something…
What does it mean if a girl (that you’ve fucked) is trying to ‘indirectly’/’covertly’ get your attention or make you jealous?
This might be over-analysis. For example: if you stop talking to the girl–radio silence– (no one really gets the upper hand but you fucked her and was seeing her) and if the girl starts posting pictures of her doing things you ‘loooove’ on Facebook–>like going hunting or something or playing basketball…does this ‘covertly’ mean anything?
As in is she trying to get you to be jealous? Or get the upper hand? It’s confusing me…
Basically the girl is trying to make herself look like she’s having a FANTASTICCC time (in your idea of a good time). And it’s obvious it’s try hard….
CH let these comments go through i wanted some outside thoughts on the general situation of a girl being ‘try hard’ like how I described
“why am I not attracted to black guys?”
Because you have class!
> Presumably non-black women, steeped in a culture that propagandizes the sexual and romantic allure of black men, struggle with deeply innate feelings that are at odds with the juggernaut of cultural messages telling them to feel the opposite way.
Yeah, but the forces doing it (the propaganda, that is) are in for a long run… Those forces are going for a material fatigue; the weakening of a material, caused by repeatedly applied loads, over very long periods of time. A war of attrition.
“Press them long enough, and they will break.”
exactly right.
[…] Nothing like a leetle auto-fill search query to pry open the lid on the female id. […]
Israel did……
not busy smuggling diesel across the boarder for your gracious cause
Try “Why am I turned off by”
Try “I cheated”
LOL
http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/love,-sex-and-relationships/the-three-little-words-that-ended-a-marriage-20140810-3dg37.html
The three little words that ended a marriage.
“Goodnight, my love.”
Three little words. Three tender words that any man would love to hear, but these weren’t meant for me. They were meant for another man. These were words of betrayal, and they reached out from the sent folder of my wife’s mobile phone and formed a circle of stone-cold dread around my heart.
I looked back at her – my wife, the mother of our children – sleeping peacefully in our bed, the first early rays of the new day lighting the room. She looked so innocent. Was she dreaming of him? And who was this “him”, anyway?
Facing up to reality: the author and his two daughters.
Facing up to reality: The author and his two daughters. Photo: Armelle Habib
My body’s defence mechanism kicked in, a combination of shock and fear. The cold hand around my heart moved down my body to my stomach, and then to my bowels. For a moment I didn’t know whether I was going to be leaning over the toilet or sitting on it; instead I dry retched and ran 10 laps of the lounge room.
Should I wake her? What would I say? More importantly, what would she say – and did I want to hear it? This was too big and threatening to think about so early on a Wednesday morning. It was better to be in denial, so I got dressed and went to work.
I left the house and quietly shut the door behind me. I didn’t want to wake my wife or my daughters – as though by letting them sleep, the dawn of our new reality wouldn’t break. Was this just a road hump or a fork in the road of our life together?
Later that day, I rang my wife and suggested we meet for a cup of tea. How nice, she said – we haven’t done that for ages.
My wife denied it, in fact she was indignant. Who? Never heard of him! What? Don’t be ridiculous!
But she couldn’t deny those three little words. And then she confessed. It was nothing. Just something meaningless. She hardly knew him.
But I had to go on, I had to fight my cramping stomach and ask the big questions. Are you sleeping with him? Of course not! Are you in love with him? Don’t be stupid! She made me feel guilty for questioning her loyalty, for going through her phone. She was sorry. She didn’t want to risk our family over something so trivial.
I shivered, the adrenalin started to ease and my stress levels fell as relief warmed me. I was exhausted and our conversation was exhausted, so I kissed her goodbye and said I would see her at home. Everything was going to be okay – wasn’t it? We would learn from this and move on.
We spent a quiet, close, reflective evening together, and later that night we made love. But I felt detached, as though there was someone else in the room. Was he watching us, or was I watching him? I looked at my wife, her eyes closed. Was she imagining I was him? Or wishing I was? Was he going to be with us every time we made love, casting a shadow over our marriage?
We had made love for the last time.
A few days later, my wife decided that our marriage was over. She had found her “soul mate” and wanted to be with him, not me. I know it’s a cliché, but I genuinely hadn’t seen it coming. I felt that something wasn’t quite right, which was why I had trawled through her mobile phone. But I hadn’t expected to find something so final. Not in my worst nightmares. Seventeen years of marriage over, just like that.
I simply didn’t understand it. I drove myself mad as I ran mental laps through my head. What had I done wrong? I thought I was a good husband and father. I had a good job, I was helpful, I did the washing-up, mowed the lawns, ironed my shirts, took the bread out of the freezer – more than a lot of men did – and, most importantly, I did my bit with the children.
I was a “fun dad”. I refereed endless games of Monopoly, froze my dangly bits wading into the sea so that my daughters could swim, sacrificed Saturday mornings to go to netball with my eldest daughter and Saturday afternoons to watch my youngest at gymnastics. It wasn’t always a barrel of laughs, but it was what I did. Wasn’t all that good enough?
Turns out it wasn’t. Although I was useful around the house I had not, it was pointed out to me, been a good husband for some time. I had become the marital equivalent of a high-end vacuum cleaner. I was reliable and rarely broke down, I was capable and did what was expected of me, but I wasn’t fun to use. Practical, but not exciting or inspiring.
My wife didn’t want a vacuum cleaner, even if I was Dyson-esque in my dust-sucking abilities. She wanted something special, an up-market espresso machine with aesthetic appeal to be an object of desire among her friends. She wanted the man who could do it all and apparently I couldn’t but her soul mate could, even though he was still in his warranty period and unproven over the long term.
The world had become one huge out-of-control fairground ride.
I was desperate to save my marriage. Partly because I was scared (I didn’t know what a future on my own might bring), partly because I liked my stable life (it wasn’t always a bed of roses, but it was pretty good), but mostly because I didn’t want my family to break up. I loved my family and I was proud that we were still together and our children were happy, especially when we knew of so many unhappy couples who had split up.
Over the next few weeks we talked openly, and maybe honestly, about our feelings. We talked more than we had for years. Was that part of our problem? I earn my living as a management consultant, so I’ve been trained to solve problems through analysis of facts, logic and carefully constructed arguments. But the more we discussed the whys and wherefores of what was happening, the more I recognised that my logical approach was falling on deaf ears. This was an emotional argument.
“But we get on so well. We rarely argue. People say that we make a great couple,” I countered.
“We’re a good team,” she admitted. “You do look after me, but you don’t make me feel special.”
She was so cool, so sure it was the right thing to do. I wanted to grab her and shake her – to make her see the madness of what she was saying. I was desperate; I only had one card left. “I thought you loved me.”
“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” F…, that hurt.
I had always imagined that if our marriage were to end, it would be because I had lost my life performing some heroic act to protect my family. You know the kind of thing – leaping in front of a runaway truck and pushing them to safety, or saving my children from a house fire only to lose my life after returning to the burning building to rescue my daughter’s hamster. But this? Outdone by some stranger who was better than me in the “making my wife feel special” department? This wasn’t heroic at all.
My efforts to appeal to my wife’s brain were of no use. I needed to aim for her heart but someone else already had that. With a steadily building sense of frustration, sadness and fear, I realised I wasn’t going to change her mind – a “solid”, “practical” marriage is no match for a love affair.
I couldn’t sleep or eat properly, my heart rate and blood pressure were rising, my eyes welled up on the train to and from work. Annoyingly, everyone else on the train seemed happy and relaxed: iPods in their ears, reading the paper or just dozing. I wanted to tell everyone my wife was behaving like an idiot, but as an Englishman, public displays of emotion are not on. I took to wearing shades – regardless of the weather or the time of day.
My wife began sleeping in the spare room on the basis that she was “seeing someone else” and it would be “inappropriate for me to see her naked”. Weird – I knew every inch of her body intimately and now it belonged to someone else. She also promised not to see her soul mate until we had formally separated and were living apart. I promised not to discuss our “difficulties” – a word I found, even as an Englishman, to be an understatement – with anyone else.
I wasn’t convinced she was sticking to her end of the bargain. I once came home from work to find her in the shower. She said she was off to the gym – the scene of the crime – and I suggested it seemed pointless having a shower before she went. She told me with a straight face that she didn’t want to get there feeling sweaty. It was ridiculous. I was worried that my wife, who had cheated on me and was going to leave me, was cheating on me.
Looking back, it seems stupid that I tried so hard to hold on to our marriage. But in my mind we had gone overnight from being happy, to her wanting to be with someone else. It took a bit of getting used to.
Five months earlier, my father had been diagnosed with an aggressive form of pancreatic cancer, where the typical life expectancy is six months from the time of diagnosis. My poor old dad was about to enter the “living on borrowed time” phase.
Two weeks after the discovery of my wife’s infidelity, I made the trip back to the UK to spend some time with my dad, swapping one emotional nightmare for another. There was so much I wanted to talk to him about, but I couldn’t find the words because I was so distracted by my own life.
My mum, dad, brother, sister and me – a family unit. We hadn’t been together like this without the distraction of our own families for years. I was consumed by the thought that I was part of two family units and they were both breaking up. Too much of my world was changing and I still feel cheated that I was unable to fully focus on my dad during his final few weeks of life.
I desperately wanted to tell these four people closest to me about my situation but they were suffering enough and it didn’t seem right.
We sat on the sofa eating homemade scones and drinking tea. All normal. Except that it wasn’t normal. My dad had a cancer growing inside him and I had my own personal cancer growing inside me. I wanted to blurt out, “I hate to burden you at this difficult time, but my marriage is over.” I kept it in.
My wife and I had agreed that we wouldn’t tell our children about the split and we wouldn’t separate until my dad had passed away. His ability to cling on to life would determine how much longer my own family had left.
He died peacefully, his family around his bedside, on a wonderful, calm summer’s evening, the sun just starting to dip below the horizon while casting a gentle light over the big oak tree in the garden. It was a beautiful place to die. As he slipped away I was hit by a towering wave of grief. My feelings of sorrow and loss for my dad were compounded by the even greater sorrow and fear over what was to become of my own family when I returned to Australia.
This was much too much. How much pain can one heart take? My dad was dead but not yet buried, my marriage was terminally ill but not yet dead.
Bollocks. Big, bastard, hairy, baboon-sized bollocks.
This is an edited extract from Single Father, Better Dad, out on August 21.
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Double rape!